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18 Jun 2012, 8:03 pm

I've had issues with girls in the past. I get the feeling that most of them instantly stereotype me, or brush me to the side like an old toy. I'm usually "too short, too ugly, too foward, uses really long words like metal," etc. Not to sound like my old, cynical self, but a lot of the girls I have been interested in are shallow, selfish, stupid, or just plain psycho. I've had my doubts about whether or not I'll find the right girl. A lot of people tell me to just wait, and she'll find me. Yeah... like some sweetheart would find me in the middle of the crowd and say:

"Hell-low. Mah nayme is Mary, Mary Smith. You want a choco-lett? My mama alwayzaid... life was like a box o'chocoletts."

You get the idea.

I've recently graduated from high school, and about to enter vocational rehabilitation to get myself acquainted with the world of the workplace. Still, I can't get that shadow of doubt away from me. I must have bad karma when it comes to the opposite sex.

EDIT: I strongly doubt I could maintain a relationship with a mentally-challenged woman. Just saying.

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18 Jun 2012, 8:05 pm

You don't have bad karma, or bad taste. But what is happening is you have a taste for things that are not within your reach. It's quite a normal thing, and given time you will find girls you like that you can not only relate to but hook up with as well

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18 Jun 2012, 8:21 pm

keep dating. eventually you'll find someone compatible. i did.

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18 Jun 2012, 8:45 pm

cathylynn wrote:

keep dating. eventually you'll find someone compatible. i did.

With all due respect, you're female. If you're halfway decent looking and are open to dating, you'll have a fair amount of men interested in you or willing to give you a shot, and they're the ones who pursue you, giving you the luxury of choice.

Try to put yourself in a man's shoes for a moment. Social rules are hard enough to grasp as it is; with dating, or even getting a woman to agree to go on a date with you, it's much more complex.

I think the OP isn't just dissatisfied with the dates he's had, I think part of his gripe is how difficult it is to get a date in the first place, when all these women instantly write him off as a weirdo.

Cathylynn, I think you're failing to see that. You mean well, but have some theory of mind and put yourself in our shoes for a moment.

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18 Jun 2012, 8:51 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:

let go of the negative illusion, the handful of women you've dealt with says nothing about the 3 billion you've not met.

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18 Jun 2012, 8:53 pm

again_with_this wrote:

cathylynn wrote:

keep dating. eventually you'll find someone compatible. i did.

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science :)

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18 Jun 2012, 8:57 pm

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

Nah, more like nuclear physics :lol:

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18 Jun 2012, 9:11 pm

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

No, but getting dates with a lot of them with total ease can be, at least it is for me, and seems to be a common theme on this message board.

Unless you're the Don Juan of Asperger's. Good for you.

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18 Jun 2012, 9:16 pm

again_with_this wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science :)

No, but getting dates with a lot of them with total ease can be, at least it is for me, and seems to be a common theme on this message board.

Unless you're the Don Juan of Asperger's. Good for you.

heh, nah i just think it's best to talk to girls like you'd talk to boys. they're just human beings, not the holy grail. I remember a story about an extremely (conventionally) attractive girl who was speaking on a talk show. she couldn't pull a guy for love nor money, all because she appeared to be out of everyone's league.

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18 Jun 2012, 9:26 pm

bucephalus wrote:

Yeah, I try to treat everyone the same. This includes girls I'm not even interested in. Yet, a lot of them still seem to have this vibe that, "eww, you're a creep!" even when I'm not interested in them and trying to have polite conversation as I would with a guy.

I don't see them as the holy grail. Quite the opposite, I see them as a pain in the ass and wonder if it's even worth the effort.

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18 Jun 2012, 9:46 pm

again_with_this wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

just keep on treating everyone the same. if people wanna give you a creep vibe for acting normal then the problem is not with you

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18 Jun 2012, 9:53 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

Nah, more like nuclear physics :lol:

Talking to any neurotypical, male or female, is far more complicated than performing brain surgery on rockets.
Trying to get them to date you just adds another layer of difficulty.

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18 Jun 2012, 9:54 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

Nah, more like nuclear physics :lol:

Talking to any neurotypical, male or female, is far more complicated than performing brain surgery on rockets.
Trying to get them to date you just adds another layer of difficulty.

Agreed. -.-

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18 Jun 2012, 9:56 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

Nah, more like nuclear physics :lol:

Talking to any neurotypical, male or female, is far more complicated than performing brain surgery on rockets.
Trying to get them to date you just adds another layer of difficulty.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ya_D9IwB3-s[/youtube]

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18 Jun 2012, 10:04 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

bucephalus wrote:

who's shoes? talking to a woman is not rocket science

Nah, more like nuclear physics :lol:

Talking to any neurotypical, male or female, is far more complicated than performing brain surgery on rockets.
Trying to get them to date you just adds another layer of difficulty.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ya_D9IwB3-s[/youtube]

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18 Jun 2012, 11:37 pm

By avoiding Ms. Left. :p

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