The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You're losing points.
You should find ways to go out more with her without him being around.
It's not like he's around or anything.
I'm a cosplayer, pretty "nerdy" hobby so to speak and here in DK most cosplayers know each other.
The times i've hanged out with her he was not even close.
First time was for a gathering of cosplayers in a city in the northern part of the country.
I went there but we first met after most had left. She's the one who really wanted to see me.
We went to a common friends place to sleep and slept on the sofa together.
Next time she needed to get away from home to relax a bit so i said she could come over to my place if she wanted to and she did.
Slept in the same bed and after she left the night the day after i got a text saying she enjoyed her time here.
I also invited her to be my valentines date and she agreed + she invited me to her place on friday.
All of this, would point to that she is either very happy about physical contact, leading me on or likes me.
Sure okey. I then tell my friend that i've been talking with her, and he tries to wingman me but i just feel like it's NOT helping.
He's the kind of guy who'd grab the attention at a party because he's funny, charming, witty and very social.
Just pretty much the opposite of me and yes we're really good friends somehow.
I did talk with him today and what can he do he said? Not much. It's just the way he is and he's right.
It's just so damn stupid that i act like the biggest idiot. Normally i would REALLY not care about what he says to people or if he makes others laugh. I guess it's kind of he's trying to wingman me, but he's sort of stealing the spotlight.
If i hang out with normal friends i have nothing to worry about i'm casual and things are okey and i can be funny too. But when it's a girl i like i start to shut down i go blank and have no idea what to do, worry i don't talk enough and bore her and that's the kind of thing that's ridicules and my insecurities start to grow and i become a total wreck =A=