does she actually care???

Post Reply New Topic

So, as many of you know, I've been hanging out with this girl (aspie) for about a month now. When it comes time for me to leave, she'll always say something like "um... so watch out for the ice patches" (because it's winter now obviously) or something similar (usually it may relate to what we were talking about). For example, we were talking about deer and car accidents, and she said one time "so what out for those deer" as I was leaving.

To me, it seems a little awkward because it's like she always says something like that when I'm leaving. It's never really something simple like "bye" or something like that. I'm not complaining... I'm just trying to see if it is supposed to mean anything.

I somehow don't think it's meant to mean that she doesn't want to see me, because when ever we agree to meet up, we actually do. She very well could make up some excuse I guess if she wasn't interested at all, and when we do hang out, we have good conversations and (from what I can see) enjoy eachother's company.

Does her little "sayings" have any meaning or is it maybe just the way she could be??? I did hear her talk to her father on the phone the other day while we were driving somewhere and she didn't say anything like that to him? From what I can see, I'm the only one she makes the little comments to.

I think it's her cute way of saying 'bye'. It's become her trademark if you will. Something between the two of you. I think it's sweet!

Part of it could be that trying to figure out how to end a conversation and/or say good bye are very difficult things to do. It is easier with family, I have no problem with leaving conversations when they are done with my family because I know that they are done (and how I can re-initiate them if needed). This is not the case with my boss or several friends. She is probably genuinely expressing concerned about your well being with her comments. Romantically it is hared to tell. Most guys I crushed on never knew, and my friends would not know that I was interested in a guy unless I told them (and I thought I was awkwardly obvious).

I have been told that the ways to see if a person might like you romantically, see how often they will do some activity with you alone (not in a group of fiends). Also see if they initiate conversations with you about as often as you initiate conversations with them.

If she initiates about half of the conversations and she hangs out alone with you, then you should ask her if she likes you with reasonable chances of success. Good luck and enjoy her fun parting phrases.

About the conversation part, do aspie girls tend to talk a lot? I'm not annoyed or anything, but I've noticed that she does talk quite often. We do have actual conversations, but if you compared the ratio of who talks, it's about 30/70 (the higher percentage being her). And it's not that I'm not listening to her or am trying to avoid conversation, it's just I don't have a whole lot to say, whereas she can go on and on about topics. Is this normal for a female?? (She is extroverted, if that means anything in regards to this...)

I think she likes you

So let me get this straight: you're worried that she doesn't care because she says goodbye in a non-standard way, and in a way which indicates that she wishes you to stay safe and avoid danger?

As for talking a lot, it depends. If it is on an interest area of mine I can talk for 40 to 50 min. I am an introvert. If the topic is one I am not interested in or do not know much about I may only say 1 to 2 sentances.