why won't my ex gf get back with me?

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so, I ran in my ex gf not that long ago. And tried hooking up with her again but she still
doesn't want to date me. This was the third time I've tried to get back with her.
but third time is not a charm for me.

we went out before, why won't she date me again?
If I meet her again, I will ask her out again, hopeful the fourth time she will once again date me.

What was the reason for the break up? Be careful you don't push her too far or she can bring a harassment charge. The movies make perseverance seem romantic but in real life it's grounds for a restraining order.

I don't bother her. when ever I run into her, I try hooking back up with her. If we just happen to be at the same place,
and I notice her, I ask her out again.....

makes no sense, she dated me before, she had no problem with me. But now she has problem with me, like why.
I am better person than I was back then. and still, she dated me back then. I don't know why she is refusing to get back with me.

I remember she left me. and few months later I told her ''I missed her, and want to get back with her'' but she went ''oh no, ''bill''
it's not going to happen it's over''

I just don't get it. I don't get women, if you love a guy before, what stopping a women ( or my ex gf) from loving and dating the same guy again? please ladies explain to me.. How is that my ex gf ''told me she loved me, and she wanted to marry me (yes,she ask me to marry her) and I was the only man for her but now she doesn't want to date me again. that illogical.

but it's her decision and can't force her to do anything. but I wish she come to her sense, and realize I am the best man for her.

Last edited by billiscool on 11 Feb 2013, 11:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

The harder you try, the farther she'll fly.



Enough said.

Seriously ^^^^^

There's a reason why you guys aren't together. Do what she did and move on.

no, it's illogical. she dated me before. she loved me before. if happen once, it can happen again but
of course it's not. You ladies are lucky, If you act like a jerk for a couple months towards your boyfriends.
Your boyfriend would be like ''yeah, that cool'' but I do the same and she leaves me.
And she won't get back with me. Yeah I admit I wasn't perfect. But we had good times, but no she
has to focus on the last two months when we were dating. Not on the good stuff.

If you love someone before, you can love them again. make sense.

You're trying too hard and wasting your time. Girls don't like guys who look desperate.

Well for one thing, if she left you before she probably had reasons... even if you don't fully understand what they were. You shouldn't expect her to want to date you again without being sure that whatever bothered her the first time isn't still an issue, whether that was something about you or something else. Even if the old issues are gone, how can she be sure of that (besides taking your word for it)? And even if she knew all the past issues were gone now, she'd still be reminded of them when she's with you. She also may have had reasons for moving on besides any issues she may have had with you.

If she's anything like me in this respect, you may as well give up on it... I know once I'm out of a relationship, I generally start thinking it's for the best that it's over and that trying it again isn't worth the risk or the trouble -- and after that sinks in, there's virtually no chance whatsoever that I'll consider a second try. People say they've changed all the time... and occasionally it might even be true -- but more often than not, the old issues come back, and some people don't consider the slim chance that things will be different to be worth counting on. If you've worked on and improved yourself, that's still worth something -- it'll help in your next relationship, but the old one may still be over.

Uhh... when the women I've dated "act like a jerk for a couple of months", I certainly don't say, "yeah, that cool". I'm fairly tolerant and don't just end things without trying first, but if things get bad enough for long enough or often enough, it's over.

actually to say she can love you again is illogical lol. Loved once does not equal can love again. Love sometimes(and most often) fades away and rarely comes back. It happened to me and many others.

Ok, what does desperate mean any ways? people keep saying that word, and I don't know the meaning of it?

Changing her mind and going out with you again would mean admitting she made a mistake in dumping you.

Many people would rather die than admit making a mistake. (Wait a minute... wouldn't dumping someone be admitting making the mistake of dating in the first place??)

Humans are morons.

It doesn't matter why, it's her decision to make. It seems really simple to me.

She grew up.

It's called changing her mind and times change for people. Back then she wanted to date you and after what happened, she isn't willing to give you another chance.