First date in 2 decades help!

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How does this sound to you all for a date? I quiet dinner an casual but upscale restaurant then to a club concert that I found out she wanted to go to. Mohawk Place's in Buffalo The Chosen Ones, The Returners are playing. It an hour to get there but it is some thing I know she wants to see but do you think its too much for a first date?

It may be a bit much. Ask her and see what she thinks!

Hmm? I thought you were married?

That is really long for a first date.

The problem is we live in the middle of no were, I don't want the first date to be to a local bar. Not much around here.

How about just the dinner then? I do think it is probably a bit full-on, unless you are getting along really well, which you can't know in advance. Do you have to get tickets to the gig, or can you wing it and go if you feel like it?

Too much. One or the other, not both.

Sudden change of plans grandfather is not doing well. Date canceled but she cant leave till Friday morning. She said she felt bad about the date I countered with Ill make diner tomorrow night and some treats to take with her for the family and she agree. Not that quick, and after showing concern for her grandfather.

Finger are crossed and not holding back on the spread of food and drinks for dinner.

Think goodness her friend called me to tow her car, she told that my date eats vegetarian meals. Bunch of last minute shopping. Good diner hid the beef that I started before work today. Talked quite a bit shes has a lot of my interest she wanted to be a mechanical engineer. Her mom push her in to dancing. She had "coffee" in mind after dinner but I kept he preoccupied till it was time for her to go with projects that spiked her curiosity on the way in. "Coffee" sounded good to me to, but a story of her college professor making a move on her and she said he was old I asked how old she said 35 to 40 I went to say some thing about this to her but she said she had to go loved the food and cant wait to get back. Now I'm dreading telling her my age I miss calculated her age by 4 years older I think she missed mine by 10 younger years. Waiting to see her again but dreading telling her and her potentially walking away for good.

The dinner went prefect Fresh Rosemary and Mushroom Pate, Insalata Caprese with Avocado, New Potatoes with Crisped Dulse and desert of Baked Plums with Sweetened Vegan Ricotta. She sang for me as I didn't hear her coming thru the shop and she caught me singing. After dinner I let her know my age as she miss judged it. The age difference was to great for her so I watched the only very compatible woman for hundreds of miles go from companion to can we be friends status. Now I'm back to nothing good to look forward to or reason other than work to be up in the morning.

Don't dispair man. Sounds like you did everything right. A woman closer to your age would appreciate your approach to dating even more. Keep trying.

Still frustrating.

sorry, man. it's hard to find good lovers in the middle of nowhere. i doubt you are wanting reassurance, but these blogs kind of lend itself to that response, so forgive me for saying at least you are getting more clear about what you want. This way, when it comes along, you will be able to respond fully. one additional reason to get up, other than work, is to continue the search. Have you read much John Elder Robison? His "Be Different" book can be a good pep talk about preparing for dates and love.

best,
Bob

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Its just depressing because not just location but finding a woman who not only can turn wrenches but understands combustion science and metallurgy in an applied setting. Who can pic thru my scavenged materials and know what they are. I know t sounds strange but I had sorely hoped to find some one with my odd passions and interest. And she has stopped in and helped with some side work. I think she wants to be more than friends but not a couple.