Where are the aspie women?

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I simply cannot get deep feelings for NT-women. At least I have never experienced it, and I do not think I ever will.

My question is:
where should one go to have a somewhat better chance of running into aspie-women in general?

I guess that what I experience is just that there are far far far more NT-women than aspie-women. But there has to be some aspies, at least.



Thank you very much!

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your a good looking guy, you shouldn't have any trouble. Good luck.
find an aspie support group and go from there.
You look cool, so that will give some advantage too. But I don't what were personality is like.
if you are really laid back, cool guys. dang man, girls are going to be all over you.

as billiscool mentioned. If those pictures of yours are anything to go by qawer, you have nothing to worry about. Don't write off NT people; they can be just as eccentric and extraordinary as people on the spectrum. Nobody is special

Several girls have wanted to be my girlfriend. I know I am privileged in that regard. But I want true aspie-love, not that (to me) superficial NT-love. I does not do anything for me.

I might look NT, but really I am very much an aspie. I can pretend to be NT, laid back and all that, but it is not where my heart is at, at all.

I am really the caring kind of type, and I want a caring kind of girl.

I am trapped in this NT/aspie-dilemma constantly.

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can you please remove the pictures of your ex? she didn't really consent to having her photos posted on the site. thank you.

i guess it would depend what she is like. what are her interests?

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You are right. No bad intentions, I liked her very much.

She was the very caring kind of girl. Really caring.

I think she got a job in a hospital after finishing her education. She was a physiotherapist.

Shoot. If I looked like qawer I'd leave WP right away and go out and enjoy the world! Get what's mine!

Aspie women are around, but they tend to blend in. Unless you meet and get to know women, you are are not going to meet and get to know any aspie women.

I know and associate with 6 aspie women. One at church, four in my workplace and my upstairs neighbor. If you are in school, there are aspie women in your environment, you just don't know who they are. They are not wearing badges that identify themselves as aspie.

QFT

Also, don't be so quick to dismiss neurotypical people. I've had some of the most raw relationships that I've ever had with neurotypical males. The thing you have to understand about NTs is that they are not all the same. There are so many out there with the potential to offer you happiness.

The thing is, looks are nice to have, but it does not change the fact that I connect much more deeply with aspies than NT's. So much easier to be around aspies.

Friendships and relationships are very far from solely based on looks.


Not-so-good-looking NT's have often been convinced that my better looks and their "better personality" would make us match up. I do not consider their personalities better, even though I know they have a much easier time in general because there are many more NT's. This conviction of theirs is such a huge turn-off to me...it means they basically don't give a F**K about me - but want to be in a relationship with me nonetheless...

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You definitely have the boy band type look and that must attract a lot of girls but do you feel the club scene is really you? You have to ask yourself this because a girl on the spectrum is much more likely to be at a sci-fi or fantasy convention, art class or a video game convention over a nightclub.

My problem may be that people expect me to be NT because of my looks. I do not see why one should not want to look nice just because one is an aspie..

I know neurotypical people can be very kind. No doubt at all. But a part of me is always missing that aspie-warmth when I am with a pure NT. I do not feel they understand me.

Honesty and trust are two important aspects for me. I'd rather not experience a divorce in my lifetime. I feel NT people (in general) are less likely to be completely trustworthy. This might be because they are less happy about routines and need changes to not get bored.

Are you looking for an aspie female with NT female looks though?

As a certain proportion of aspie females probably wouldn't make your 'grade' in terms of how you wanted them to look,
you might be looking for an NT 'look' coupled with an aspie personality

For example, I'm an aspie female and I wouldn't even have identified you as aspie from your photos - you look very NT to me,
plus you are good looking so double the reason I wouldn't bother as I'd think we had nothing in common

People tend to prefer others at their own level in terms of looks and intellect

Your matches in looks will by default have more NTs in there

You should choose a person based on their personality rather than their neurology as there's plenty of unpleasant people with ASDs just as there's caring NTs (albeit they're in the minority!)

To be honest, I know how you're feeling but what you are looking for is relationship maturity and that can either come from an NT or an AS girl, it's really dependent on the person and what they have been through. You need someone with that same priorities that want to build a trusting, honest and open relationship along with the patience and tolerance to understand you. Trust me, that's not going to be the easiest thing to find as I have dated women that are even 30 and they couldn't understand why I withdrew from them.

Theyre at the Library and Anime conventions!