Do AS girls date AS guys?

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I am mainly asking because I only know three AS girls in real life, but none of them date AS guys. One doesn't date anyone at all and doesn't appear to be interested in dating. The other two date NT guys. In one case, I really don't see what the girl sees in the guy-she's in college and he does yard work for a living.

It's just frustrating since there's more AS guys and personally, I have had zero luck in getting a NT girl....

Feelings are by definition, not rational. So it is useless to rationalize them

You must realize it has nothing to with "luck"

I would bet on it.

I don't see why they wouldn't.

Hi SadAspy!

I don't actually know the answer to this question, because I don't really know any AS girls in real life.I have had zero success with NT girls too. Surely there must be at least one out there who would accept me the way I am.

I wouldn't mind dating an aspie man but I am married now so I won't be doing any dating.

My last ex was an aspie. But that didn't go well and I had decided I shouldn't date another aspie but it wasn't his aspieness that made things hard between us, it was his ignorance and narrow mindedness and refusing to listen, inferior complex and low self esteem.

For me, it would depend on the aspie same as it would depend on the NT if I were dating.

In my experience, Highly social women want outgoing men (generally). Introverted women also want highly social men to bring them out of their shells. Heck, many NT men like antisocial women because they are less likely to be unfaithful. There are always exceptions, but the odds are stacked heavily against us.

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well, my girlfriend is an aspie
& i'm an aspie
so yup, aspie girls do date aspie guys .
(wellll, some of them at least anyways)

This pretty much sums it up. Personally, I'd be up for dating an introverted or extroverted woman, but neither type wants an introverted men.

I don't find aspie guys appealing tbh usually.
I say usually because some I am attracted to. They are usually the intelligent and assertive ones.

Got to admit though many guys on the love and dating forums give aspie guys a bad name. Some aspie guys are really cool and not bitter.

I'm such a whiner myself its good for me to be around positive, laid back guys so I can learn to be like that.

Depends on the girl. I went out with and fell in love with an Aspie girl before.

Let that be real world proof that a guy with a crappy job can get a girl. My brother has no job and his girlfriend goes to an Ivy Legue college.

My brother is NT and charming. That's is what women see in men. Their personality and their potential.

Do AS girls date AS guys? I'm sure some do. Would I?

Maybe. I wouldn't automatically reject someone because they had AS, but we would have to have compatible dynamics. And he would have to not expect me to act NT.

In that respect I think it can be more difficult for two people with AS to date. NT's are more socially predictable but a person with AS doesn't conform to those standards very well.

Sometimes, yes.

So, job doesn't matter as much as I think.


I need to stop being such an insecure phaggot and toughen up

Maybe you just need to be more open to changing your perceptions. Primarily when the correct answer to a question is defined by the person you are asking the question to.

For example, my father once asked me why I did not do well on a particular test and I replied that I did not do well because I did not have a textbook to read from and it was difficult for me to follow the instructor in class because I do not process auditory information very well. He replied by telling me "BS!"

Here I was being completely honest with him, and he was discounting my answer based on...I'm not sure what exactly, as he is not me and I was the only one qualified to give the answer in this situation.

I am :)