lost faith in aspie girls

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Hi, im new to this board. Well to get things start, I
never had a real date for 23 years of my life until I
meet another aspie girl at my workplace, boy what a
dream come true, not. At first she was nice, then she became
a real b***h. Would always put me down like calling me ret*d and
say I belong to a class with mentally challenge people.
And what piss me off the most is how she always try to
pass herself as ''near normal'' and that I was below her
leauge. Im so f*****g piss off right now, if this is how aspie girls are
then I wont have anything to do with them but then again it was only one girl

i think that you've answered your own question, there.

sadly, what you described does seem to happen- whether it's an aspie / aspie relationship or an aspie / NT relationship. basically, which ever one is closest to being NT dominates the relationship and imposes those standards on the other.

by the way, no matter what her "neurological status," she had no right to call you names and bully you like that. it sounds like she was projecting her own insecurites on to you.

She didn't treat you badly because she aspergers or NT, she treated you badly because she's the one with the problem(s). You can do better than her..............easily.

If those are the sort of generalisations you make I don't want anything to do with you either.
Urgh, I can't believe someone could be so ignorant!

An aspie girl may not be the perfect person for you. It seems that if you are an aspie that it would follow that the perfect person to get with would be another aspie. But if neither of you can read the other it is a little hard to communicate at all. It is possible(and i'm hoping i can find an aspie girl to try a relationship with) but not necessary for you to be happy.

Look beyong the diagnosis. If she was mean to you, THAT ONE GIRL was mean to you. AS or NT it's not a good sampling method to base your assumptions about a type of girl on one girl.

thanks for the support. I've been thinking and you
know what I will get over this. Most people I've know
wether aspie or not have always treated me with respect.
I thought having an another girl with aspie would be great
but just as anybody in the world, there are sour grapes on all sides.
Im not giving up now, I might find another aspie girl who
treats me with respect. Once again thanks for the support

Haha, knew some female would chime in with scathing cries of "you're ignorant"

I think "Not all girls are like this" is enough, and fact to back up it might...you know....help the problem?

yeah... i've had some 'interesting' relationships with aspie girls but she sounds worse! it could be that she has behavioural problems and didn't really mean what she said, but it doesn't sound like it. and even if she did have behaviour problems it doesn't mean you have to put up with them.



yep that's been my general experience there were only a couple of times it didn't happen, and one of those was because i was with someone with a more similar level of functioning and support needs to myself. but the other was with an aspie who was 'more NT' than me. she just had patience with me and didn't dominate things (even though she could have done quite easily)... that's not to say she was perfect all the time, she wasn't and no-one can be, but when i did feel under pressure from her i could tell her and she listened

Aspie females are every bit as evil and vicious as NT females. Facts are facts.

Should I assume then that all aspie men are misoginist pigs that make ignorant generalisations? Please have some respect for the women and girls that post here.. such comments may make some feel unwelcome.

Bill, your going to see a lot of that. In the case of the girl your talking about she just sounds like she's that small and immature - I'm guessing she's higher functioning and is railing on you essentially to up her status and try to distance herself from being the way she thinks people feel about you. I wouldn't say you should lose faith in the character of aspie women just because you met one classless piece of work who happens to have AS (probably a lot of self-loathing issues as well).

On the issue of dating though, with respect to how women are (AS or NT), you'll find it probably won't make much difference. If you have an outward dissability or if your aspergers manifests in a way that makes you obviously less alpha or even just vibe in a way that's socially reproachable then your probably in s--- creek. Attraction's just one of those games where it's really kind to some people and merciless to others.

Its natural law and the game is just one of those lovely things where it's probably about as dehuminizing as you'll see the sexes get toward eachother. Both the guys and girls need to remember that just hypothetically, you pretty much land in the body or life that you have by luck - a lot of us guys could have just as easily ended up in their shoes and saying the same things (its all environment and genetics anyway) and they could have ended up in our shoes saying the same things.

And i'm going to prove that to you, a***hole.

Flame me if you want but you have no right to be so rude about other members apperances.

For goodness sakes watch the language, there are kids about. Shame on you.

Perhaps if he'd phrased it a different way, it'd still be accurate without ruffling feathers!

All one has to do is read the posts from our many aspie members to discover WE'RE HUMAN! We have the standard range of emotions from total jerk to shining beacon. We may often appear flat and emotionless in person, but inside (and on "paper") we have just as much emotion as anyone else... possibly moreso.


OP, you had a bad encounter. Maybe she's a jerk - maybe you left a bad impression of yourself - we'll never know for sure.

There's 7 billion other people out there to scope out... get busy!