Not 100% sure what he sees in me.......

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........ although he always makes out it's the other way round!

I'm married to an Aspie, we'll be celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary in December . We were smart and got married in the year 2000 (makes it way easier for us to figure out how long we've been married heh).

Anyway (and this is the sole reason I've registered an account today and am posting this), it's his birthday today! So first and foremost HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY! Secondmost (yeah I don't care, he makes words up too), he's at College today, training to be a Podiatrist, he originally wanted to be a Chiropodist (shan't bore you with THAT tale) but for some bizarre reason he has to complete a three year degree to become one.

So instead of being home with me (I'm on Holiday from work this week, no I'm not being mean, it was booked before he got on this course!), so.... instead of being home with me, playing games, getting drunk, watching nonsense and eating nice birthday food, he is probably about now being physically tortured at Uni because some person he barely knows is mauling about with his bare foot 'practising his skills' whilst being tortured mentally/physically because whilst this is happening, he is also having to partake in smalltalk.

Personally, I wouldn't be 'too' fussed about having that happen to me, I'm a pretty friendly, gregarious person so nattering is not a massive problem. For my husband however, this is excruciatingly painful. Instead of enjoying his evening when he gets home, he'll most likely be feeling pretty ill, either a banging head or a really upset stomach, most likely both, he'll also be 'narky' for ages until he calms down. All that BS he has to go through for three years and unlike with 'regular' folk like me, it doesn't get easier with time.

He goes through all this for me.

If I had Asperger's, I'm not right sure I could put myself through all the crap that he does, he's really brave. He keeps on trying and trying and I'm so proud of him. He's 34 years old, haha no he's not he's THIRTY FIVE today :p He's done so much more in the past, he was even a teacher of secondary school maniacs for five years.

He puts me to shame.

I work in a hospital, I'm 41 years old, I'm an HCA (new obnoxious term for Auxiliary), when it's brewing up time, I often joke when they compliment my cups of tea, 'thanks, my dad always said I'd never amount to much'. Sadly, that's probably true. I've chosen the 'easy' path that barely involves any extra effort to accomplish. For him it takes a huge effort to even muster the will to get out of bed some days.

I won't bang on too much more now, I just wanted you folks and most importantly HIM to know it's not always a one-way street in relationships. Don't ever feel 'beneath' another, in any way. My husband often (too often) asks me what I see him and why I stay with him and says sorry (way WAY too much) about the way he is. I could easily do the same.

Happy Birthday baby, I love you with all my heart.

xxx

Well we are usually flooded with sad stories of guys that mistreat their partners and are possible aspies and wether or not they should try to work things out with them so Im very happy to hear about a healthy relatiosnhip.

Feel free to use the forums for whatever issue you may come across.

Awwwwww, sweet!

Perhaps that is what he sees in you?

I am happy for you both. This helps to counterbalance all the negativity I read on here. While I am not faulting those who are feeling negative, it is nice to read about a successful match.

Adorable story .

Stomach, liver, pancreas, womb...

Wow...... what a difference a year or so makes baby! Here we are 15 months or so after I wrote that post and here we are (amazingly!) pretty much in the same boat as we were back then! Now some people might think that a bit weird that I'm saying that in such a happy way - but no, this is fantastic! It means he's stuck with it and also he's around half-way through it! Yea!

Anyway! Hehe, that was not the reason I'm here my darling husband, I came back to check what I'd wrote last time, I admit I actually thought you were 'plumbing' when I wrote the previous one heh.

I'm here (and I've decided to add this to my last post to you, because I think the friends you will never have on here will also enjoy reading some of my nonsense to you ). I'm here because there you are again, being molested by a bunch of inconsiderate w*kers, who couldn't care less whether you're in the middle of a meltdown or not, they only care if they're getting a shag tonight with that desperate one with the plum coloured hair. Don't worry about them baby, 'cause they sure ain't worried about you.

I'm worried about you. I love you. I want to fix this for you. I can't and it breaks my heart! I don't usually say this to you so 'coherently' because I'm usually in tears by now (which I am, but I'm typing so it's still coming out alright!). I was planning on deleting that last sentence once I got it outta my system but you know what bugger it, it might be good for others to see they're not on their own with the madness of it all heh.

During your placement the other day, when your boss finally realised 'what's up' and how fantastic you are at masking a lot of the 'symptoms' he told you he was impressed. You know, I think that's the first time I've ever actually heard that in the almost 16 years (yeah 16 baby!) we've been together. How bad's that? How bad is it that I've never actually said the words too!

So..................

I AM REALLY IMPRESSED (AND PROUD!) OF THE WAY YOU DEAL WITH THE BASTARDS OUT THERE. YOU ARE AN AMAZING PERSON!

I know it brings you tremendous pain and anguish and I know you wouldn't being doing the vast, vast majority of it, if it wasn't for me, so for that thank you. Really, thank you.

I love you baby

Wifey xXx