A guy just asked me out and I'm having a panic attack!

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So, this guy who I really like just asked me out on a lunch date and I'm freaking out. I'm 17 and never had a boyfriend or went on a date before and I need help. When he asked me of course I was all giddy and said yes but now I'm panicking cuz I have no idea what I'm doing! I've always kinda been like "one of the guys" to all of my guy friends and when I know I like someone I get really nervous and I kinda babble on like an idiot. It's easy for me to flirt with guys and I can be really funny but idk if I can be like that when I'm around somebody that I know for sure likes me! Like, idk.. I thought that everything will be better if I knew a guy liked me back but now that its really happened I'm super nervous and yeah.
What should I do? Am I over thinking this? How should I try and act? What if he try's to lean in and kiss me? Please help! Any advice is great!

You can't do much wrong besides sleep with him on the first date. My first kiss was at 17 and i didn't have anything resembling a steady boyfriend until I was 20. I know I used to obsess over guys I'm dating and used to get anxiety attacks when I didn't hear from them. There's a good chance you'll date a handful of guys before you settle on one. Try as hard as you can not to let it consume you. He's going to be nervous too, so take things nice and slow, be a good listener, and don't be afraid to take a pause before saying something. He'll love to see some of the enthusiasm you are sharing with us, so be genuinely excited that he's taken initiative and asked you to lunch. Guys like feeling appreciated. He'll probably want to pay the first few times but I usually offer to at least leave a tip. If you're like me you'll shine under pressure!
There's a good chance he'll wait a few days to call you again so don't worry if you don't hear from him for a week. He's busy planning your next date!
Oh and be sure to get enough rest the night before. Once I was alone with a guy I really had the hots for, but I was really tired and so nervous that I couldn't even talk if i tried! Smoking weed made it worse.. If you have nothing to talk about, it wasn't meant to be anyway.

I'd advise to just be yourself, that's who we wanted to ask out. Just try and relax and treat it as a normal thing.

There's literally almost nothing you can do wrong on a first date, just try not to be nervous as hell and you should be fine.

Just relax. What will most likely happen is that you will have a good time with the guy tomorrow and you'll go back home all happy and relieved. Learn to discard the irrational thoughts that go on in your head, and you should fare well.

As for the kiss, just let things flow naturally. If you want him to kiss you, let him. Otherwise, well ... ok, if this is a concern to you, maybe you should panic a bit.

I agree on the 'being you' advice. Have fun!

A little bit of wine and listening to some music through headphones or earbuds does wonders!

Sorry, I can't agree with the music on headphones or earbuds on a first date. If I was on a first date with someone and they listened to music through headphones or earbuds on the date, I would think they are more into the music and not getting to know me and talk. I would end the date ASAP and there would not be a second date.

Just be yourself, you'll be fine.

Doing it before the date then taking them off will help because then then youl be relaxed and able to go on.

Doing it before going out, good idea. But not during the date.

On my first date, I backed into my girlfriend's dad's car.

I've bonded over music with two guys early on, before we started dating. I liked the intimate feeling of sharing headphones, and it's a good excuse to sit close to each other. You don't have to be talking to get to know someone, and you can learn a lot from their music taste. These days if I wanted to share music I would put on a record. But if it's your first date and he takes music or a movie as a good excuse to make out with you, that's a bad sign.

did that break the ice ?

No, it was the end of the date, so the ice was already broken. I was so excited at having had a first date, that I did not look behind me when I went to leave. I thought about just leaving, but I knew that they would know that I was probably the one who did it, so I went back and told them. It was miserable.

I'm guessing it all worked out in the end.

Well the relationship lasted for about 3 months, so I don't think the car was the reason it ended.