After that first Skype blues?

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So I've been 'seeing' someone from WP for about the last 6 months and progressed from PMs to Email, and now Skype (neither of us has video @TM but we've swapped pics, probably not that relevant, though us living in different countries may be)

PMs and Emails have been good and nobody has introduced any horndog content to speak of. It's not my objective anyway, I'm more interested in her as a person than as a potential receptical. None of the physical F2F relationships I've been in have been where I can really talk with them like this. Even with the the traditional online dating avenues I encounter the SO'NT'S when it comes to good interaction

Well anyway, the other night I bit the bullet and Skyped her. Her IP connection was worse than mine, but what threw me off was the register of her voice. She actually does have a very pleasant speaking (and more so singing) voice. I was just used to the idea in my head of having it be an octave or so higher than it turned out to be. I was fine with that rather quickly and we managed to get about 30 minutes of talking in. I guess what's been bothering me is that her timbre had me thinking she's too good for me, if that makes sense, like I wouldn't blame her if she found someone with more $, better looks, etc.
Even though the feedback I was getting through IM was more positive.

Maybe I'm just Asp-ing out that I'm bothering someone when I call them. maybe the fact that I can't see her expressions is tying in. Maybe my family is right, I'm just obsessing over someone I'll probably never meet IRL, that there are plenty of people locally to meet (like THAT's been working out so well all this time)


Feedback?

It sounds to me as though you're selling yourself short. For one, the pitch of a person's voice says very little about who they actually are as a person. It's genetics, after all! And you shouldn't be so harsh on yourself. Sure there are going to be people out there who are better looking than you, have more money than you, and possibly even have more in common with her than you. But none of those people ARE you, and don't have the unique qualities, personality, and experiences that make you who you are. It sounds clear that you both like each other, so I wouldn't worry about it!

I think it could all be due to that "it's all very new to me" type of anxiety?

I am really picky with voices too, I can dismiss someone based on their voice pitch alone

It's not a personal critique, but rather a sensory issue, that I have with high pitched voices. Which men often don't have, so not a problem I encounter regularly!

Just let it flow and see how it goes. All those pre-nerves will iron themselves out and you will know whether you are right for each other or not, by way of conversing more and getting to know each other.

Good luck.