Will I have better luck not from a dating site?

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Colin88
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21 Mar 2013, 7:28 pm

I have had rotten luck with dating sites, paid and free ones, over the last four years since I started. I met a local girl recently (one-hour drive) from a free online dating site and have regretted it. Just like other girls I've met from online dating sites, she had certain questionable quirks. I have since broke up with her for several reasons like planning dates far too close together, planning dates without my acknowledgement, texting me FAR too much at work with 'I love you', didn't understand at all that I need breathing room and she was not giving me any of it, had far too much baggage (bipolar), as was just far too clingy. She made me petrified to go online because I knew she'd be waiting to talk to me. I told her I have autism and she was OK with that (which is a first).

The reasons why I turned it into a relationship is after I found out how much we had in common, and I was a little desperate after being single for almost 3 years.

I have been so disgusted and agitated with this relationship, that at the end of it, I shut down the only dating profile I had left and vowed to never do online dating again.

My point in this topic is has anyone else had something like this from someone they met from online, and would I have better luck meeting someone in the real world?


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21 Mar 2013, 9:39 pm

Honestly Mate, Dating Sites more than most times, seem to attract Desperados who have no Self-Esteem and feel like they need someone to love, Just for the sake of it. Which you need to ask yourself? Am i doing it for that reason? or am I wanting to be there for a girls needs and wants and love them?. In other words yes you have better luck in the offline world. However you might need to use your Assets (Friends) to help you with this. Honestly i have had a few hook ups through this but i am no expert I am going by Experience. Have a crack you don't know what the results may be.



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21 Mar 2013, 10:24 pm

Honestly, in the real world, I rely on women to ask me out because I would never ask a woman out since I can't determine flirting, so sad as it may seem, the women I've dated from online sites have been higher quality and less screwed up than the ones desperate enough to ask me out IRL. The women who ask me out IRL are usually too old or have kids on top of being crazy.



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21 Mar 2013, 10:44 pm

Better luck? Not really, you do however get to cut a lot of the bs by going irl only.



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22 Mar 2013, 5:16 pm

Glowz44 wrote:
Honestly Mate, Dating Sites more than most times, seem to attract Desperados who have no Self-Esteem and feel like they need someone to love, Just for the sake of it. Which you need to ask yourself? Am i doing it for that reason? or am I wanting to be there for a girls needs and wants and love them?. In other words yes you have better luck in the offline world. However you might need to use your Assets (Friends) to help you with this. Honestly i have had a few hook ups through this but i am no expert I am going by Experience. Have a crack you don't know what the results may be.


My dad is actually helping me out with this. My so-called friends have other things to do. :?


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