Would it bother you if your girlfriend tells you this...

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"I'm not loving you for your looks, I'm loving you for your personality"?

Hypothetical question again btw.

No. Why, should it?

Something tells me it sounds like she thinks you would be ugly looking to her yet you're too nice to leave, but then again this might be just me.

If you truly love someone you would think he/she would look stunning to you because of the love-connection, no?

Perhaps she could say that you're not considered to be hot looking to society, but that you're 10/10 looking to her, followed by a random jokey society bash comment coming from her.

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I might draw that conclusion in joking and poke at her for it, but I'd honestly see it as her telling me who I am is far more important to her than what I look like.

After all, one falls for the person. Their appearance is just attraction. Lust is not the same as love, and I'd be concerned if I thought my partner may have confused the two.

Looks tend to go with age but personality remains or could improve with time.

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I'm sure they meant it in the nicest way possible and that is you have a great personality.
Probably didn't phrase it right is all

You should marry her.

You should have told her that "Personality" was the name of your p*nis.

Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where George's girlfriend says that she doesn't really care about looks. I would be semi-offended by the comment, but as long as I knew that she was happy in the relationship then it wouldn't bother me.

IDK, this might cause a seed of doubt in me. Why bring it up in the first place unless she was placing some kind of value to what others think?

With that said... I don't need societies approval. My partner should find me attractive, though.

Because she might have noticed from other people that they don't consider you to be hot looking at all? Like they're sort of rubbing it in her and/or your face.

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Saying that you don't love someone because of their looks is not the same as saying you don't find them attractive. You could think that a person was totally hot without it being the reason for your feelings for them.

Personally, if a guy told me "I love you for your looks, " my feelings would be hurt quite badly.

And if she truly knew me, she wouldn't bother mentioning it because I don't give two shites what people think of my appearance.

it could easily be taken as an insult. a caring person wouldn't say it.

But then again, context is all. If it was said to someone who was stressing about how they looked, then it wouldn't be an insult at all.

I don't think it's something to be upset about, tbh. Looks change as one gets older, personality is much more enduring and central to attractiveness.

Yes it would bother me. If you don't have something nice to say than don't say it unless you want conflict.

Saying nothing would have been better than that.