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How successful has you been in love?
I'm a man and have ZERO success. I know what sex means because the dictionnary. 32%  32%  [ 14 ]
I'm a man and had one/some quickies, but I never was able to get a serious relationship. 11%  11%  [ 5 ]
I'm a man and I have had an ordinary success. Not bad, but I can't say that I broke many hearts. 27%  27%  [ 12 ]
I'm a man and am/was highly successful and promiscuous. Call me "The Master". 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I'm a woman and have ZERO success. I have one thing in common with Virgin Mary, and it's not precissely the name 'Mary'. 9%  9%  [ 4 ]
I'm a woman and had some quickies, but no guy never wanted to have anything serious with me. 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
I'm a woman and I have had an ordinary success. I never was the Party Queen, fine, but I had my relationships. 11%  11%  [ 5 ]
I'm a woman and am/was highly successful and promiscuous. Call me "The Goddess". Or whatever, but call me. 7%  7%  [ 3 ]
I'm Callista. Deal with it, dude. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 44

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07 Apr 2013, 2:53 pm

Since the ethernal debate about both sexes chances to success in flirting arose again here:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts227007-start150.html

Have men and women the same success in love, in general?

I think that better than debate forever ever again, is to drop the question so we can get a feel about how it really goes for men a women here. That way I have prepared a poll that gathers all possible love states ever known in the human race in only 9 options.

Choose yours.


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07 Apr 2013, 5:50 pm

Promiscuity does not automatically go with being highly successful with the opposite sex



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07 Apr 2013, 6:48 pm

ZERO, but alas I have never tried.


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07 Apr 2013, 6:58 pm

I'm married, but she's not the first woman I've ever had sex with.



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07 Apr 2013, 8:22 pm

Ok, I had one girlfriend back in high school, we went out for a month but we really didn't do much.
and had my second or my ''first real'' girlfriend few year back and she left me :(

so, 2, so yeah. I do Ok.



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07 Apr 2013, 8:26 pm

nessa238 wrote:
Promiscuity does not automatically go with being highly successful with the opposite sex


Yeah, even though the poll name says its about love, most of the options sound like they're related purely to sex.



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08 Apr 2013, 1:32 am

The situation goest this way, right now:

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nessa238 wrote:
Promiscuity does not automatically go with being highly successful with the opposite sex


Well, in men's wolrd success has to be proved. A score doesn't go to the score board until the ball enters the goal. I used the same rule for women.

However, if you tell me that conditions of success are more soften for women, well, that's OK, I didn't know it. Sorry for it. :D


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08 Apr 2013, 1:52 am

spongy wrote:
I guess I had one. If you count a 7 month online relationship with no actual meeting.

That said Im a bit scared of approaching people offline even to ask them for help so thats my main problem right now(and yes Im trying to work on it)


It took me years to go over it. I still remember the day I overcome it, it was a 26 June when I was 26 years old. It just happened suddenly, from one day to another. So be patient, and keep working.


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08 Apr 2013, 5:52 am

Greb wrote:
The situation goest this way, right now:

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nessa238 wrote:
Promiscuity does not automatically go with being highly successful with the opposite sex


Well, in men's wolrd success has to be proved. A score doesn't go to the score board until the ball enters the goal. I used the same rule for women.

However, if you tell me that conditions of success are more soften for women, well, that's OK, I didn't know it. Sorry for it. :D


You were equating promiscuity with being a great success with the opposite sex - I wouldn't say that's true at all

people who are top of the heap often aren't promiscuous at all - they tend to stick to long term relationships with other 'alphas'
Promiscuity is looked down on as something that people who are of 'low value' do (this is the NT view not mine)

A person who would sleep with you one-off often would not want a relationship with you

it's not 'success' in that respect



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08 Apr 2013, 7:15 am

nessa238 wrote:
You were equating promiscuity with being a great success with the opposite sex - I wouldn't say that's true at all

people who are top of the heap often aren't promiscuous at all - they tend to stick to long term relationships with other 'alphas'


Nessa, I'm afraid you have read too many romance novels.


Changing subject, it goes like that right now:

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08 Apr 2013, 8:12 am

Greb wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
You were equating promiscuity with being a great success with the opposite sex - I wouldn't say that's true at all

people who are top of the heap often aren't promiscuous at all - they tend to stick to long term relationships with other 'alphas'


Nessa, I'm afraid you have read too many romance novels.


And someone's been hanging out in too many locker rooms. If someone is bound and determined to add notches to their belt, it's not that hard to do. I've seen it in action from many people, even those deemed "unattractive". The wider you cast your net and the more persistently you fish, the more you're going to catch. Since you just seem to making a sexual encounter tally sheet, then the thread title is a misnomer.
Success in love is different for everyone, but quantity over quality doesn't cut it. :?



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08 Apr 2013, 8:19 am

MjrMajorMajor wrote:
And someone's been hanging out in too many locker rooms. If someone is bound and determined to add notches to their belt, it's not that hard to do. I've seen it in action from many people, even those deemed "unattractive". The wider you cast your net and the more persistently you fish, the more you're going to catch. Since you just seem to making a sexual encounter tally sheet, then the thread title is a misnomer.


Well, I can understand a metaphor or a couple of them. But I'm afraid I have difficulties to get the meaning of a paragraph that only has metaphors.

Sorry, dude, but I just didn't get a single word of what you were saying.


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08 Apr 2013, 8:24 am

Greb wrote:
MjrMajorMajor wrote:
And someone's been hanging out in too many locker rooms. If someone is bound and determined to add notches to their belt, it's not that hard to do. I've seen it in action from many people, even those deemed "unattractive". The wider you cast your net and the more persistently you fish, the more you're going to catch. Since you just seem to making a sexual encounter tally sheet, then the thread title is a misnomer.


Well, I can understand a metaphor or a couple of them. But I'm afraid I have difficulties to get the meaning of a paragraph that only has metaphors.

Sorry, dude, but I just didn't get a single word of what you were saying.


Basically, if you're only goal is to have as much sex with as many people as possible, then the more people you preposition for it and the amount of time you spend doing so is going to lead to more successful encounters. If you ask five girls over five months, you're not going to have the same results as asking fifty every night for five months straight.
The main point was that this proves nothing.



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MjrMajorMajor wrote:
Greb wrote:
MjrMajorMajor wrote:
And someone's been hanging out in too many locker rooms. If someone is bound and determined to add notches to their belt, it's not that hard to do. I've seen it in action from many people, even those deemed "unattractive". The wider you cast your net and the more persistently you fish, the more you're going to catch. Since you just seem to making a sexual encounter tally sheet, then the thread title is a misnomer.


Well, I can understand a metaphor or a couple of them. But I'm afraid I have difficulties to get the meaning of a paragraph that only has metaphors.

Sorry, dude, but I just didn't get a single word of what you were saying.


Basically, if you're only goal is to have as much sex with as many people as possible, then the more people you preposition for it and the amount of time you spend doing so is going to lead to more successful encounters. If you ask five girls over five months, you're not going to have the same results as asking fifty every night for five months straight.
The main point was that this proves nothing.


Ah, fine. I understood it this time.


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14 Apr 2013, 11:44 am

I was in a short non commited relationship ,then a fling . then i met my soulmate ,we lost our viriginity to each other ,we want to get married but dont have the money for it.



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20 Apr 2013, 9:20 pm

Never had a chance to have a girlfriend, let alone make love.
I'm such a failure...