are men chasing after small percent of single women

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do, anyone believe that a small percent of single women are getting most attention from single men?


take online dating, you have 30 guys go after 1 woman, and now times that by 3, so now you have 90 guys going after 3 women.
so you have 87 women that are not getting chase by any of these men.

and in real life, you have single woman who getting hit on by tons of men, and alot of single women who are getting ignored.
and of course it going to be tough for men, because if alot of these single men are chasing after a small percent of single women, then these single women
can be picky and choosy.


and now men have to compete with other men to get a date, you ask a women out, only to find out, she been asked out by 10 men all ready.
so, now it's a competion between the 9 other men, and there can only be one winner and 9 losers.

and online dating is even worst, when you have to compete against 30 other guys to get a date.

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and I know some men here will say:'' all women have options'' and that will they get hit on so much, no they do not. There are tons of women that never
get hit on and rarely or never date, (including never getting one night stand, and 12 hour boyfriends either)

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Ever wagered that some men apply to all the women they found attractive or interesting in personality but for what ever reason - be it a bad opener, not good looking, questionable info in the profile) - all those women simply don't respond? Men and women on dating sites are both equally guilty of setting very high standards for other people, without making any effort on their end to justify those high standards.

here some stats: http://www.statisticbrain.com/dating-re ... hip-stats/
on average there 86 single men to 100 single women. So, there are more single women than men are. (however, not 100% sure, but there are more
single men in their 20's than women, but once people hit their 30's single women number goes up)

and now if some single women are getting hit on by 9 men in real life, or getting 35 guys message on online dating.
it would show, that since single women out number single men, and that means that alot of single women are not getting into a relationship.
and alot of single women are getting ignored by men.

here a quote: '' On average, there are 86 single men to every 100 single women in America. So, the odds are slightly in favor of men finding a mate''


here another one: http://jonmillward.com/blog/wp-content/ ... esults.jpg
so, there are 5 women, (and 5 men but we don't worry about the men now)
woman 4: had 536+
woman 5: had 428+
woman 3: had 76
woman 2: had 48
woman 1: had 11

so woman 4 had 48.7%
woman 5 had 39%
so both woman 4 and 5 had 87.7% of men chasing them
woman 5 had 3.17 times more men message than all woman 1,2,3 combined
woman 5 had 5.6 times more message than woman 3
woman 4(the champ) had about 4 times more message than all woman 1,2,3 combined
and woman 4 and 5 had 7.1 times more message than all woman 1,2,3 combined

woman 4 had 7 times more message than woman 3.

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Why does this bother you though?

It's the way of the world so it's not going to change any time soon

Most people prefer to try and punch above their weight if possible

Some of us know our limitations and this aids our success as we don't waste time chasing people who are never
going to be available to us in a million years and we appreciate the people we can get a lot more than people
who can have a different person every night if they choose to

I guess as a topic it's interesting to look into but the conclusion is very straight forward and that is everyone wants the best they can get.
Don't forget all the men on those sites are being ignored by women for probably the same reasons.

Does it affect you, though? I mean, grabbing a whole bunch of statistics on the net may help me figure out why I'm in a certain predicament, or why other guys might be in it.
What it doesn't do is fix that problem.

well, that why being single is tough for both gender. alot of people (me include) want the best, and so do alot of other people.
you are going to have your desirable single people, that all single people want to have a relationship with. ( or sex, or whatever a person wants)

and your getting other single folks that no one wants or get ignored.

take me, a few months ago I was only going after 19-20 year old girls, now on average 19-20 year old girls are better looking, and will get hit on more
than a 35 year old woman. they have way more option than a 35 year old women. but since I am not too smart, and kept hitting on them and getting
no where, so I decide if I want to get a relationship, maybe I should go after a wide range of women than just 19-20 year old.

and If I want a relationship ( not right now, I have some personally issues) I would try to find a woman, that isn't too popular with the guys.
it would be pointless to try to hit on a ''pretty popular girl'' who has tons, and tons guys hitting on her. and guys who are better looking, richer,
and more ''alpha'' than me would have an advantage over me.

and that the problem with online dating, you have a small percent of people, who are getting the most message. so you have 1000 people
fighting over 1 slice of pizza, and 99 other slices of pizza, that are not geting eaten or very few of the pizza slices are getting eating.

but we all want the best. so, it would tough to date a more unpopular, unattractive single person than a more popular, attractive single person.
but if we all want the very best, alot of us, (male and female) will be left out.

Peoples' idea of what constitutes 'the very best' varies widely though

I've never wanted 'the very best' anyway as I knew I'd never get it

I'm not attracted to popular alpha male types

I look for a person I've got a realistic chance with and this type also happens to not be widely sought after either so
I'm lucky!

well, that good. if you want to have a chance in dating or in a relationship, you have to go after a wide range of people.
that why I think alot of men and women are always single becoming they are chasing after the person, that everyone else wants.

it's like there a top high school football player, and your a college coach, and you want him to play for your college
but the same student has 500 other college that is also trying to get him, so really have to work hard to maybe get him
on your team

but there another high school football player, that not as good as the above football player, but he's not terrible
but he only has 7 college after him. so what would be a better thing to do. Go after the football kid that has 500 college after him,
or the football kid that has only 7 college after him.

This is basic stuff though

I worked this out for myself years ago

I go for people who show an initial interest in me usually, then I know there's more likely to be a strong enough attraction

I'd never go after the best looking person in the vicinity as I don't use good looks as my main criteria for attraction

Whenever I've shown interest in another person first it's either not been reciprocated or it's only been a one-off or a fling

well, that cool. Good luck in finding the best person you can find.

I've found them in some respects

No one's perfect

Most men--of any age--are primarily after women in the 18-29 age group. Which makes things difficult for the men in that age group. Unless they were willing to go for an older women.

There are plenty of senior women who are out of the dating picture, and who would very much appreciate some affection.

Here is a rather vindictive old coot

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CfiSD6F6wQo[/youtube]

He makes his point, but definitely goes overboard.

Women find male partners at all ages, there's no set rule for when they're 'out of the game'

'Older women' aren't some strange separate species - they're just women who got older!

I hate to break it to you but you will be 'older men' at some point

it pleases men who don't get much success with women to imagine a lot of lonely older women not getting any either

It's all down to the individual though - not their age

Some young people can't get partners either - it varies a lot and is ultimately based on how tolerable a person's character
is more than looks a lot of the time

If you want the big mac over the prawn salad, go for the big mac but don't knock the guy who still aims or dreams of having the prawn salad even if he is searching through the leftover bin.

Lol

What a charming way with words you have!

I have a different value system to you - it involves seeing people as individuals, not as trophies to be
collected and boasted about

I value them for themselves, not for what they represent to society's warped value system