Gentlemen, I have the solution to your problems.

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First of all, you gentlemen over think about aspergers. Turns out, I was fine with everything when it came to love until I looked up things about aspergers and how it affects their hearts. Now I can't listen to anything about sex without thinking that I will be left out on it in the future. Here is another thing, you are letting aspergers get into your mind. I play corner in american football and its like the receiver being aspergers beating me every time and talking smack to me (that does not happen to me, its just an example). You gentleman got so involved in aspergers and reading about how much it affects you relationship wise that you can't function as good as if you didn't know about it. Does that make sense? Aspergers is in your mind talking smack to you when all it is telling you are things that NTs wrote on the internet. You are letting aspergers beat you every time. It is time to step up and realize that aspergers is your dog, not your owner. Too bad you can't take that dog to the pound or give it away because no one wants it and it is impossible. However, dogs pass away faster than humans so aspergers is something that you will grow out of. Keep reading about how aspergers affects your sex and love life and it will become your owner (its true). So quit yapping on and on about why you are such a lonely person when you have the opportunity to meet another girl (other cases men, its your decision gentleman). If she/he puts you down, than don't you dare write about it because believe me, you are digging us deeper into depression and I simply do not want to hear about it. There are always more fish in the sea fellas. You have an opportunity to get a relationship or lose your virginity every time there is a "no." Im fifteen and I figured this out. How old are you? in your twenties, thirties, forties? A teenager? I don't know but gentleman please there is light at the other side of the tunnel and reading about aspergers and what other people post will keep hiding that light. Me, I am still recovering from what I have read in the past but for now I am no longer reading about peoples problems on relationships and sex. Survival of the fittest gentleman, NTs don't want to hear about your autism simply because you will be rejected or they would instantly put you in the friend zone. Keep it a secret, stop BSing on Wrong planet, learn the dating game, and explore opportunities. Im out PEACE!

I have done this. But I ate my owner and turned into a werepyre....

sure, I do that. but in the end of the day, Im still that strange eccentric guy.

funny... i am currently writing a book about the myths and facts of Aspergers. This OP pretty much nailed it.

True.

Even before I knew what Asperger's was, I was still affected by it.

You say "Asperger's is something you will grow out of."
I say "try to grow out of something that defines you, like your race or height."

For the first 20-something years of my life I had no idea what Aspergers was, and I was far worse off socially and romantically than I am now. I feel that since I was diagnosed and learned more about it I have progressed leaps and bounds over where I was previously. And no, it is not something that you simply grow out of, but with hard work and dedication many people can learn the skills necessary to effectively cope with it and mitigate the potential negatives.

I feel incredibly lucky to have been diagnosed when I was 3. My parents told me about Asperger's when I was 10, and it's given me a chance to learn what that means and try to formulate ideas of what to do about it. As seems to be a common theme here, I wouldn't say I've grown out of it so much as I've grown up with it.

I think there is something to be said for your philosophy though... if all you do is focus on your problems and why something is impossible, the thing you think is impossible is going to be just that... impossible. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. To some extent, confidence is everything, and I really do think that it's possible to be as f*****g weird, strange, and eccentric as you want and still pick up girls, as long as you OWN IT. Now, that annoying thing of actually putting that philosophy into practice...

Asperger's is not a problem. Unconfident body language, poor muscle tone, bad social skills, bad fashion, and no job cause dating problems.

Anyone who has Asperger's without these problems probably does just fine. I do just fine at getting a date in spite of being seriously f*****g crazy in ways besides Asperger's. That's because my issues in the list I just made are minor (except the social skills, those are bad).

In the end, it isn't about aspie or NT. It's about my list.

And at the end of the day, I'm still the weird chick.

And I find this initial post somewhat bizarre. I've known for years I couldn't date 'normal' guys because I couldn't keep up with all the constant socializing nor could I act 'normal.' but i only recently realized I have aspergers.

Decades later, still waiting to "grow out of it."

Perhaps I'm the only one on here who actually is managing to slowly slowly grow out of it or at least learning to live with it.

I have other problems besides autism.

Can anyone tell me what the OP was trying to say?

He's saying that at the age of 15 he understands the world better than anyone else.

That...

Might be more correct than what I was planning to say.

Honestly, AS has both its benefits and issues - some may inhibit the dating process, some may advance it. And as he stated, some inhibitors might just be in our imagination.

Of course, they're still inhibitors.

Ah right. Not everyone can retune or rewire their brains to beat their Aspergers and fight the forever-alone phase. Yes some of it is only in our mind but our minds can be pretty difficult to master.

Everyone has different circumstances and luck. It would be nice if there was a universal solution for everyone and everything but there isn't.