My dads attitutde!

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I understand that there is a lot of negative attitutes when it comes too people on the spectrum and there ability too form romantic relationships.

In the past whenever i would talk too my dad about getting too know a girl that i like better he would say in a slightly annoyed tone of voice "she's probably already got a boyfriend".

I myself have autism/aspergers.... what do you think my dad would be saying too me if i was neuroytypical in contrast too his attitude i mentioned above?

Maybe he is doing that so you don't get your hopes up too much about the girl. He probably wouldn't say that if you made sure she didn't have a BF first. I think he'd say the same for NT if NT didn't ask her out yet or make sure she is single.

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Well if people said in life "she has already got a boyfriend" then everybody would be single

Yeah, they save time.

My dad told me this all the time too, yet he still told me to go up to them and stuff. He even teased me about wrestling the cute lady at wrestling class. My dad wants to see me married. If you really think he is trying to get you to never go after ladies your wrong. You have to ask these ladies to be friends, and actually be their friend. You will have friends that can give you tips, and may let you know when a girl likes you. I mean if you hang out with them, they may try to get you to say stuff about you so they can tell their friends who like you. I say it is better to learn from your good friends that are girls and how they like to be treated as a friend, than to go right into being a boyfriend for one of them. Through this 'friends only' experience I have had myself with ladies, I have more courage and skill asking to hang out with people. I have talked to complete strangers, and they helped me out with the equipment at the gym at the y. I encourage you to make friends with different ladies first, and then when you know enough, you will know how to do this in a way that is best for you. Good luck, and many blessings!

Were you monologuing about her? I used to do that when there was someone I had a crush on when I was in middle school. If you have a habit of talking about it too much (your dad sounding annoyed and dismissing you is a big hint) then he was probably just trying to get you to stop talking about it.

That didn't sound very helpful of your dad, though as somebody else on here pointed out it would be good if you talk to the girl instead. I once talked to my mum about being single and she said something like 'relationships are difficult' in a way that obviously hints I have poor social skills and that it's my problem. I got super pissed and refused to talk to her properly for a while. My advice is that if you feel talking to someone about your problems doesn't help you or makes it worse, try to find someone else to talk to instead.

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