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04 May 2013, 10:36 pm

I don't think it's possible for me, a eccentric and ''special'' autism to
date a so called ''normal'' woman

I don't think any nt women would ever date me, ever. I might have a chance
with another autism women (have before) or another eccentric nt women.

But a normal acting nt women, I don't think it can happen.

do you folks ever think a ''normal''
nt women could ever date me. and be honest too.

I think it's nearly impossible for me, I am too ''special'' and
eccentric. how many adult women would play ufc action toys with me.

or watch garfield and friends with me. Yes, I am pretty bad off.

I am 30, but have a mind of a 12-15 year old. I wear mario brother
pajamas. if you need to know more of me.



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04 May 2013, 10:56 pm

Yes, of course. Quit blaming stuff on your Asperger's. Whether women are attracted is determined by 3 things:

1. Your looks.

2. Your status, job, etc.

3. Your ability to make her laugh.

Aspies often struggle with all 3, but it's not the Asperger's per se that causes the problem. Some NT men are extremely insensitive to social cues and such, often deliberately so, and still have no trouble getting the girl.

The only things that are Asperger's per se are lack of empathy and ignoring emotional cues. But these problems will not alone prevent you from getting a girl. A classic Narcissist is one who has no empathy and ignores emotional cues. Yet many of them go through women like my knife goes through melted butter.

If any guy has trouble with women in his 30's, let me guess: he is either (1) asthetically challenged; (2) works menial jobs or no job; or (3) is too serious. I don't think the latter is true for you, and the former probably isn't true either, except possibly with respect to fashion. But I suspect the middle one may be true of you.



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05 May 2013, 9:20 am

You could find a playful woman who is a big kid inside. She might not want to play action figures with you every day but is that really crucial to you? She might do that a few times for laughs. A lot of NT guys collect action figures, and I bet they play with them sometimes too.

Just look for someone playful or artistic.

Women value things like kindness, honesty and decency in a mate. It's only when they are sowing their oats that they want the bad boys.

Some women might find your innocence appealing.



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06 May 2013, 7:18 am

billiscool wrote:
I don't think it's possible for me, a eccentric and ''special'' autism to
date a so called ''normal'' woman

I don't think any nt women would ever date me, ever. I might have a chance
with another autism women (have before) or another eccentric nt women.

But a normal acting nt women, I don't think it can happen.

do you folks ever think a ''normal''
nt women could ever date me. and be honest too.

I think it's nearly impossible for me, I am too ''special'' and
eccentric. how many adult women would play ufc action toys with me.

or watch garfield and friends with me. Yes, I am pretty bad off.

I am 30, but have a mind of a 12-15 year old. I wear mario brother
pajamas. if you need to know more of me.


To be honest, most women won't mind if a guy has childish interests as long as they are mature and masculine all around. But not many women will be attracted to a man who has the mind and personality of a child. Because it makes them feel like a pedophile. For example, I once went out with a girl who was my age, yet she had the mind and attitude of a 13 year old, and I felt that even though she is physiologically an adult, it would still be dating a child (which is immoral).



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06 May 2013, 7:29 am

Tyri0n wrote:
Yes, of course. Quit blaming stuff on your Asperger's. Whether women are attracted is determined by 3 things:

1. Your looks.

2. Your status, job, etc.

3. Your ability to make her laugh.

Aspies often struggle with all 3, but it's not the Asperger's per se that causes the problem. Some NT men are extremely insensitive to social cues and such, often deliberately so, and still have no trouble getting the girl.
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That is the one I have trouble with. I'm popular, just with ladies that have boyfriends. If I get my forge I am building up and running I will post pics! Got to go stack bricks!


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06 May 2013, 1:16 pm

minervx wrote:
billiscool wrote:
I don't think it's possible for me, a eccentric and ''special'' autism to
date a so called ''normal'' woman

I don't think any nt women would ever date me, ever. I might have a chance
with another autism women (have before) or another eccentric nt women.

But a normal acting nt women, I don't think it can happen.

do you folks ever think a ''normal''
nt women could ever date me. and be honest too.

I think it's nearly impossible for me, I am too ''special'' and
eccentric. how many adult women would play ufc action toys with me.

or watch garfield and friends with me. Yes, I am pretty bad off.

I am 30, but have a mind of a 12-15 year old. I wear mario brother
pajamas. if you need to know more of me.


To be honest, most women won't mind if a guy has childish interests as long as they are mature and masculine all around. But not many women will be attracted to a man who has the mind and personality of a child. Because it makes them feel like a pedophile. For example, I once went out with a girl who was my age, yet she had the mind and attitude of a 13 year old, and I felt that even though she is physiologically an adult, it would still be dating a child (which is immoral).


I would love a girl like that. It would do the opposite--make me feel NOT immoral for wanting those traits, because I am reassured I can find them in a physical adult.



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06 May 2013, 1:17 pm

minervx wrote:
billiscool wrote:
I don't think it's possible for me, a eccentric and ''special'' autism to
date a so called ''normal'' woman

I don't think any nt women would ever date me, ever. I might have a chance
with another autism women (have before) or another eccentric nt women.

But a normal acting nt women, I don't think it can happen.

do you folks ever think a ''normal''
nt women could ever date me. and be honest too.

I think it's nearly impossible for me, I am too ''special'' and
eccentric. how many adult women would play ufc action toys with me.

or watch garfield and friends with me. Yes, I am pretty bad off.

I am 30, but have a mind of a 12-15 year old. I wear mario brother
pajamas. if you need to know more of me.


To be honest, most women won't mind if a guy has childish interests as long as they are mature and masculine all around. But not many women will be attracted to a man who has the mind and personality of a child. Because it makes them feel like a pedophile. For example, I once went out with a girl who was my age, yet she had the mind and attitude of a 13 year old, and I felt that even though she is physiologically an adult, it would still be dating a child (which is immoral).


I would love a girl like that. It would do the opposite--make me feel NOT immoral for wanting those traits, because I am reassured I can find them in a physical adult.



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06 May 2013, 2:30 pm

I think "normal" women date "normal" men. Birds of a feather flock together.



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06 May 2013, 2:43 pm

Stalk wrote:
I think "normal" women date "normal" men. Birds of a feather flock together.
This.


Why the hell would you want to date a "normal" girl anyway? Boring...........



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06 May 2013, 2:48 pm

billiscool wrote:
I don't think it's possible for me, a eccentric and ''special'' autism to
date a so called ''normal'' woman

I don't think any nt women would ever date me, ever. I might have a chance
with another autism women (have before) or another eccentric nt women.

But a normal acting nt women, I don't think it can happen.

do you folks ever think a ''normal''
nt women could ever date me. and be honest too.

I think it's nearly impossible for me, I am too ''special'' and
eccentric. how many adult women would play ufc action toys with me.

or watch garfield and friends with me. Yes, I am pretty bad off.

I am 30, but have a mind of a 12-15 year old. I wear mario brother
pajamas. if you need to know more of me.


At least you don't listen to...
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoM665paLKM[/youtube]



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06 May 2013, 3:14 pm

1000Knives wrote:
At least you don't listen to...
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoM665paLKM[/youtube]



At least I listen to that and this:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBlVj-aiPcI[/youtube]


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06 May 2013, 3:19 pm

appletheclown wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
At least you don't listen to...
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoM665paLKM[/youtube]



At least I listen to that and this:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBlVj-aiPcI[/youtube]


I should be really hardcore, extreme and intense all the time and listen to Slayer and Atreyu. Then girls will be like "Woah, he's so hardcore and intense." Instead of "is that guy f*****g gay?"



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06 May 2013, 3:29 pm

And this is what I will feel like I have gotten past when I get married....
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IrJAwCBbnuc[/youtube]


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06 May 2013, 10:11 pm

Geekonychus wrote:
Stalk wrote:
I think "normal" women date "normal" men. Birds of a feather flock together.
This.


Why the hell would you want to date a "normal" girl anyway? Boring...........


there are more of them.



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06 May 2013, 10:21 pm

I could just go after autism and eccentric women. But I can't tell when a women has autism.
I can tell when a women is eccentric or geeky, I know one autism women from work, but she
ain't talking to me. ( all because I yelled at my ''guy'' at work, who wasn't doing his damn job anyways,
so he deserve to get yelled at)

but every eccentric and geeky women I met, always have boyfriends.


( I assume the women at work has autism, but not 100% sure)



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06 May 2013, 10:32 pm

billiscool wrote:
I could just go after autism and eccentric women. But I can't tell when a women has autism.
I can tell when a women is eccentric or geeky, I know one autism women from work, but she
ain't talking to me. ( all because I yelled at my ''guy'' at work, who wasn't doing his damn job anyways,
so he deserve to get yelled at)

but every eccentric and geeky women I met, always have boyfriends.


( I assume the women at work has autism, but not 100% sure)


Is true. Usually the boyfriends are normaler, too.