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the worst dating advice every is the whole ''you need confidence'' now having confidence is not bad,
it good not just for dating but for life in general.

but the problem with the confidence advice is the ''omit fallacy''
the advivors alot of times leave out other keys too.
for example, you need to have cleen teeth,, nice cloth, good body posture.

for example, a stinky, overweight and rude guy is not going to get a girl with confidence.
an unattractive, short man is not going to get a playboy model with confidence.

a redneck with no teeth, has weird fetish, and carry around a snake is not going to get a girl with confidence.

now confidence is not bad, but you need alot more than just confidence.

and the other problem with confidence is, now I understand about wearing clean clothes, keep yourself clean, and not being rude.
But what if you like being a geek, you like wearing mario brother shirt, or being little bit ''goofy'' and having fun in life, not being
so serious about thing.

can you be confidence without being a so called alpha male. do you have to wear the best clothes, and be the best ''alpha acting male''
take me, I do take showers, I lift wieghts, I run, I do martial arts, I am not rude towards women ( unless they are first) and enjoy talking
to them but at the same time, I like my shirts I wear, I like being an ''eccentric'' crazy guy, I like having fun, and saying my lame stupid jokes,
but I have alot of confidence in myself, but I am not a pretty boy alpha male either. and I don't care to be one, I never want to be the player type.
I hate wearing nice clothes and acting all macho and all that s**t.

so that another second problem with you have to have confidence. the one advisor exclude the whole ''keep yourself clean, clean clothes,good personality''
where the second type advisor says to have ''confidence'' but you have to become a ''so called alpha male''

sorry, little ranting here.

Confidence is about believing in yourself even you enjoy wearing a Mario shirt, If a girl asks you if you are confidence in it, you need to express it instead of not being confident. You need to put a confident spin on it instead of seeking approval or worrying about what others think.

Confidence isn't a key to universal success but it works for many people. It would work for you, Bill. Make a few changes and find the confidence to carry yourself. A lot of the confidence comes from being comfortable with who you are. If you aren't comfortable with certain elements, change them or improve them.

"You must have Confidence" is...well....BS.

Skill is the key.

You get the confidence after you master the skill in order to achieve success in specific field.

When girls say they want a "a guy with confidence" - they mean in English (or Arabic or French) "I want a guy with SOCIAL confidence" or in some instances " "I want a guy with enough SOCIAL skills that allow him to talk to ME with confidence".
A geek for example typically lacks the social skills hence not confident in social events but that same geek might be very confident when it comes to programming or solving math in class while the social butterfly soccer player might s**ts bricks just by the thought of it, then who's more confident? The geek or the soccer player? It depends in what.

Get good enough at something that other people confirm that you're actually good instead of walking around thinking that you're awesome without any actual basis or confirmation from others.

It's seems to be less about confidence than it is about being able to take punches and keep going. To think that you are entitled to keep going, that you deserve better, that is where the confidence comes from.

Confidence is not only not the end-all be-all like others claim, but people can't even define what it means to be confident when they say this.

Courage and bravado isn't everything either.

I mean, consider the fact that there are plenty of courageous people out there who don't have relationships and are pretty much doomed never to have them.

There's got to be more to it than that.

I wouldn't even say skill matters. Skill doesn't help ugly people, for example.