Having a Wingman/woman

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Let's be honest not all of us out there are A Grade Material with the ladies. However just because you struggle to start a conversation with the Girls doesn't mean you totally f**ked. I haven't had intimate female relations for a couple of years. However im starting to get to get myself back on my feet and i believe having a good mate or a mates girlfriend help set you up, can get you get into the game. What are your thoughts?

Having someone introduce you to a group as their friends can certainly open up some doors and make things easier.

However you may want to be sure you can trust your wing-man/woman to behave.


Last summer some woman I barely knew tried to be my wingwoman.
We were in a big group of people and she would find out which of them were new to the group and call me out saying hey spongy you should definately join us for a quick chat.

I had brought along some friends of mine but I figured she was nice enough to set this up so I should join them.
Next thing I know she is taking over most of the conversation and trying to explain them some of my achievements even though they probably didnt care and felt threatened by her. Also a quick chat involved spending the rest of the event beside her.
My friends complained about my dissapearance. Never saw those two girls again.

That said I talked with her and she is getting much better at things, right now she points out who is new, lets me join them if I feel like doing so and then moves on to some other table(she is the organizer of the group right now so she greets everyone and since we are friends she tells me which of them gave her a good impression).



A close female friend tried to set me up with her cousin once for a double date but it never actually happened.

I spent this summer going out in groups with some local PUAs to get a better understanding of what they do and I went back to meeting one of them once a week last week(done this with : local christians, communists/whatever group that sounds mildly interesting and this guy needs help getting started on my main interest).
He is trying to get me to go to group events early so that we can "sarge"(neither of us is that much into PUA, just drinking some beers and losing fear of approaching females) we are doing this for half an hour tomorrow

Thats my whole experience with wingmam/wingwomen

Word of advice: have your support be either A. taken or B. way less physically attractive than yourself.

...or Autistic.


Oh, wait. I say this because I've sort of done this for one of my friends. I found out he liked a girl (who also is Autistic) and I helped him get his confidence up and ascertain that she was single. I used my magic power of Autism where I actually said "You two should be dating!" and asked her "Is that guy your boyfriend?" (about the person we thought she might be dating) and nobody thought anything of it because everyone there knows about my Autism and expects me to do stuff like that for "no reason." They don't even try to ascribe Neurotypical reasons for my thought processes--it doesn't work!

They've been together for seven months now and I love both of them. Too bad I can't be a wingman for myself, though...I'm too dense to take any of the subtle hints!


I think an important part of dating is actually going for people you already "like." I've kind of noticed (and experienced) that people don't like it if you're trying to date them just because you're single and you want to not be single. Someone once tried to date me because he'd been "trying to get a girlfriend for a long time." I didn't want that.