Teach to emotionally support?

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lately, i have been having some trying times with work and school. i have shared a couple of events, that caused me stress, with my aspie bf (through text), and there is no response. is there an effective way to communicate to my bf that an acknowledgment of my situation would help me emotionally?

Do you have female friends to do that for you?

I never understood why you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to do that.

text him, " I need a virtual hug." or some words to that effect. be direct, we aspies don't always pick up on hints.

Yeah we tend to have a hard time knowing how to respond to emotional things like that so unfortunately OP you might have to tell him exactly how you want him to respond

we had a discussion of how i would like to be "supported" and he understood what i want. he said if there's something wrong with the situation that is making me upset, he will focus on the solution. i told him if i wanted a solution, i would ask him "what can i do?" or "do you have any suggestions". I told him if i merely point out that i'm stressed, i want support...

Had/am having a very similar problem in my marriage. I actually did ask for advice for a while, because I thought that it would be helpful somehow. It took a lot of time and confused arguments before I came to the conclusion that all I need from him is a listening ear. I find that being very clear about this, stating this need each time I have a meltdown near him if possible, makes the most difference. He is unsure of how to react, and the easiest way for both of us is to be direct.