FWB relationships - your opinion?

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On another thread there is a discussion of FWB relationships. It's not what the thread was about and so I thought I'd start a thread to discuss it. Whats your opinion of a friends with benefits relationship? Another poster said he felt it was demeaning, and I wonder why. Personally, I think that if both parties are ok with it that it's fine.

Other people: none of my business.

Myself: as long as something was not misadvertised I'd have no issue. And that applies for more than just this issue.

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I feel it demeaning because the only purpose would be sex. FWB is just something I'd rather not be a part of. Like I said, I would feel I was stealing from the other party, it wouldn't feel morally right. I have little chance at it so it might as well be through marriage, those are just my thoughts.

It sounds like where a guy and girl pretend to be just friends, but then when one of them gets a real boyfriend/girlfriend the other one gets mad of course and proves it was fake.

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I hold the view that sex is a privilege of the attractive (and the rich). Can FWB challenge this claim?

But whats wrong with the purpose just being sex? You said it wouldn't feel morally right, do you feel that way for religious reasons or for some other reason?

In my opinion there are two types of FWB relationships. There is the "booty call" type, where the two people don't ever really see each other except for sex. They don't talk on the phone or FB or hang out or anything, it's just for sex and only sex. The other type is two actual friends who like each other and enjoy each others company but while they don't have any romantic feelings for each other, they are physically attracted to each other and act on it.

There is a programme in Britain called the Jeremey Kyle show that destroys that thesis.

Roughly 90% of alleged NTs act like it's the weirdest and most-shocking thing they've ever heard if someone tells them they're still a virgin past early 20s.(even if the virgin is ugly and/or poor)

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FWB is quite good but it's rare when one party doesn't develop feelings for the other.

Aren't these threads perhaps more appropriate for adult aspies discussion, rather than L&D?

Pretty cool.

I don't think so. It's about relationships, and this is where people discuss relationships. It's not dirty or explicit, so I don't see why it should be in the adult section. Lots of people discuss relationships of this type in threads on here, so why not discuss the concept? Why do you think it should go in the adult section?

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That's very creepy indeed.

Sex is a sacred bond, when man & woman become one in flesh and blood. I don't think it is only religious, I'd be feeling extremely guilty. In my view, sexual misdeeds on another are greater a crime than murder.

I don't see what that's got to do with anything. I wouldn't think a FWB relationship would have anything to do with money, so that leaves out the rich part. Of course some type of physical attraction would be required but then physical attraction is pretty much required for sex at all. I would imagine that most people can find someone that thinks they are attractive even if they aren't a Miss America or a Mr Universe. Being attractive isn't always about being textbook good looking. There are lots of different types of good looking,

That's because in our culture it's not that common for people to remain a virgin that long. Sex isn't such a big taboo anymore and people aren't as afraid as they used to be of having sex without being married. Also, having birth control available has made casual sex more common.

I remember when I was 20 and working at that gas station, most of us that worked there hung out together and went out to bars or to each others houses to party on weekends, etc. We would bring dates as well. One of the guys who worked there got his older brother a job there. This guy was maybe 25 and really awkward socially, didn't do much to make himself look good, didn't go out or do anything really except hang out with this one friend of his. He mentioned during a conversation that he was a virgin and we all pounced right on that and made it our mission to get the boy laid. Several of us took him shopping and to get a different hair cut, he wouldn't try contacts so we got him to just leave his glasses off since he wouldn't get a different type of frames even though the one guy in the group who had tons of money had said he would pay for them. We taught him how to dance and a few of the guys taught him how to talk to girls and he practiced on me and the other girl in the group. We took him out to bars during the week a few times when it wasn't really crowded so he could get used to it because he didn't like noise, and he could practice talking to some girls there. Finally we took him out for the real deal. It took us two nights in a row at this one bar, and the help of the really cute and smooth guy in the group who had all the girls all the time, but we got the boy laid. He started going out some after that and wasn't so shy around girls and within about six months he actually had a girlfriend for the first time in his life. We had all been completely shocked that he was a virgin.