I'm only 19, why I am so worried?

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I've been meeting with a psychologist for therapy the past couple of weeks, and one of the biggest problems I have been facing is the notion of being alone for the rest of my life, and never falling in love. She told me that most of the people she sees who worry about being alone are in there 40's and 50's, but since I'm only 19 she tells me that I do have plenty of time find a romantic interest. huh... ... like no ones ever told me that before.

Still I worry though, and I know I don't have as many problems as the men in there late 40's finding life long companionship, but I have met so many wonderful woman so many potentials to (and I know I am going a little old school here) court a beautiful girl, and truly bring out the romance I could give to someone else. I guess I just have to keep my head up, and keep my eye out for other potential ladies and maybe I'll find someone who will want the love and compassion I would bring. Sometimes I am worried about the kind of girl I will attract, I would like to meet a girl who is equally as shy, and into sci-fi and fantasy and other nerdy abnormal things, and is a very kind person. I have very dark and brooding personality though, I wonder what kind of girl that would attract if any girl would be attracted to the type of person I am, there have been a lot of instances were many potential girls turned out to be bat s**t insane. I've also been very stressed about a girl I could've very well had the best chance out of any other chance in the past to ask out, and I blew it, like the idiot I am I blew it. So with my semester ending and me departing the mating grounds (aka College), I worry that I will never find a girlfriend, but I also have hope for what has yet come.

Insane? Noooooooo...

To be fare, this is my gamer name more than anything else.

If you want to avoid the crazies, get to know them before going out with them. If they have dated anyone that you know, then you can ask them if they are nuts.

I know guys that have that problem (attracting crazy people).

Avoid desperate girls. They are the ones that will freak out at a break up.

I definitely avoid girls who are desperate for attention, they don't want any romance, just someone to talk to. I'd hate to put it so bluntly, but it's true I think if someone's really desperate then they need a friend before a lover. Like I said I now how to talk to girls who are crazy and let them off easy enough, but I just want to know how to be right with a woman so I don't end up like a desperate crazy teenage girl. I mean what would you like to here from the lips of a man who really likes you, not you liking them, but they really like you.

In order to secure a relationship its necessary that you know yourself before you can get a girl. A girl can detect who is a genuine guy who respects them and who is a cheesy one who just cares about themselves. A random girl will usually not go out with you without some context or level of trust. I would say that before you try rushing into trying to find a relationship, you should try to establish a friend-base which makes you more active and critiques you to make you an more attractive candidate. Instead of a relying on a direct approach to hooking up with women when opportunities are limited (no girls in the summer, random girls at a bar), socialize with anyone you can find without stigma or prejudice. Obtaining friends and establishing connections will give you access to more socializing events (movies, clubs, parties) where you will have the opportunity to socialize with many girls. Desperate and crazy girls can have access to non-desperate and attractive friends and it is never good to burn bridges by avoiding them just because they are not a prospective girlfriend. In conclusion, increase your best chances and do not beat yourself up about your failures. When the time comes take the initiative and you will have plenty of time to find a romantic interest.

You're only 19. don't worry now.

you've got years and years to worry!

nothing like the present

It's much better to have relationships in your prime (18-22) for many, many reasons, like what Boo stated above. You go past that age with no relationships and you're considered either gay or damaged goods.

I am 19. I don't know, a lot of the local girls are biker chicks believe it or not. they love tattoos and shaved heads and, wait for it ..................................................................BEARDS. But if I successfully made a lasting relationship work with them, just picture it, an aspie/socially awkward hipster and a catholic biker lady.....

Hey, I live in the same state as you, an I am not a crazy biker chick!