Bad Dating Profiles

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I don't have anything in particular to say or am desiring any particular advice. I'm just kind of surprised at how bad most of the profiles are on pof and I thought I'd talk about it a little bit.

The profile picture is the first thing you see, and half of them seem either to have been taken in bad lighting, in the bathroom mirror, or with a duck face. A lot of the girls actually look pretty, but it makes it seem like that they must be mentally ret*d or something to make themselves look so bad in their pictures. The pictures I use were taken outside by somebody else, so they are all good pictures. However, I have taken a picture of myself in the bathroom mirror before, and I put the edge of the phone against the mirror and angled it so that you couldn't see that there was a mirror in the picture or that I was holding my hand out (I left one shoulder out of the picture). It looked really nice and people were surprised to hear that I took it in the bathroom mirror. That sort of thing seemed really obvious to do and I did it spontaneously, but apparently all these women can't do that after having taken hundreds of pictures of themselves.

It also seems like 2/3 of the profiles say that she is wild and free, is family oriented, or is funny or something like that. Why would you bother saying something that sounds the exact same as every other profile there? It seems like there is nothing distinguishing the majority of the profiles from each other.

And a common theme throughout almost all profiles is that the author doesn't seem to realize that her feelings aren't inherently valuable. Maybe I just had a bad childhood, but something I figured out very early, and I assumed it was obvious, was that no one cares about how I feel apart from myself. Most of the profiles make the women seem mentally ret*d, or like they were pampered their whole life and never suffered any serious disappointment.

If I were interested only in dating people who I could consider to be my equals, then there would be almost no suitable people on pof. Most of them seem to have the mental capacity and maturity that I did when I was around 10, or sometimes younger. I mean there are some good profiles that I am happy to get messages from, or that I am disappointed to be ignored by, but the majority of them suck really bad. I am wondering if most women are this stupid, or do mostly the stupid ones who can't get dates get on pof? I would think that if my profile description were in a woman's profile, that it would be really hot. However, I am not really hot, so I guess they have different standards, or ludicrously high standards.

And I know I've had bad ideas for profile descriptions that I've shared on WP, but those are the ones that I'm not sure about, which is why I share them. My empathy is always wrong, so if I'm not able to reason something out by myself I share it to get other people's opinions.

I am really turned on by skilled people (I get man crushes frequently, but I'm not attracted to male bodies), but of course women are much less likely to be in highly skilled fields. It is like they are a different species and everything they say about themselves is irrelevant to anything I care about. I think I basically want a man's brain in a woman's body. That's probably why I am attracted to lesbians so frequently, and the woman I was with in Germany was a doctor who told me once that she wishes she were a guy.

At least pof is better than OKcupid, where you get constantly bombarded by scams and dick shots.

That's all I have to say.

Well,

Dating IS actually very superficial. It gets special when you discover that you get along with each other.

there is nothing bad about that, it is just a thing NT's seem to handle that way.

I was always really surprised how fast and simple NT people discover that they like each other. hey don't need complicated, intelligent bla-bla all the time to have a fullfilling relationship.

And: who cares if they make themselves look bad in your eyes? I guess most women don't have problems in finding men online, even if they don't have a profile picture or are plain stupid.

You don't need to have a degree to be attractive or amiable. You only need a deegree for dating purposes if you have naught else to offer.

well, tto sum it up:

the problem lies in the eye of the beholder.

I actually think you do have to have a degree or some sort of special skill to be interesting. I don't think people are inherently interesting, so if there isn't some sort of source of interestingness that a person can draw from the outside world, then there is nothing interesting about that person. I think about a lot of social interactions like a circle of debtors borrowing each other's money. Stuff moves around, but nothing of value is created.

I agree with the OP. 99% of women's profiles on both POF and OkCupid go something like this:

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Hi, I am an East Coast transplant, but my heart never left the [city]!
I feel just fine in jeans and T-shirts but also like to doll up!
I like curling on the couch with a good book and also going out to clubs!

I am living life to the fullest! I work for a non-profit that feeds hungry children to hungrier bears!
It is very fulfilling!

I love having fun!

I love food!

My favorite authors are Dostoevsky and David Sedaris!

I have no television because it makes you stupid, unlike me, who is smart!

Here's a picture of me with a fake mustache that covers half my face! I am amusing!

Here's me underwater in a mask that obscures ALL of my face!

I live life to the fullest! Every moment matters!

On Fridays I like to unwind!

The first thing people notice about me is my eyes or my boobs, depending on their gender (tee hee!).

You should message me if: you are kind, handsome, tall, in good shape, well-educated, NORMAL, don't live in your parents' garage, have no baggage, know when to be strong and when to be soft, are both extroverted and introverted, and look like young Val Kilmer.

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It's like an awful generic template they're all copying this from. Or, OkCupid and POF are a scam ran by intricate bots. The latter thought, however illusory, makes me more comfortable.

^^^^^I didn't like okcupid,but my profile didn't read anything like that.And I posted a good pic that was taken outside and was a close up.Lots of people did have photos where you couldn't tell what they really looked like or just a torso shot.What's up with that??A picture of a chest?And another with his pants partially unzipped.And pictures of them standing by a fancy car,they probably saw it in a parking lot and someone took the pic for them.I bet it's not even theirs.

http://www.ninjapirate.com/article/girl-of-my-dreams

Simply put, women don't exactly have to try very hard when it comes to online dating.

A woman could put up "Hi" as her whole profile, and a picture, and still get replies.

So, people in this thread. How many dates are your fantastic profiles getting you?

"I like any music with a beat"

Some pof profiles in my area are like this:


"HII EVERYONE I LOVE SPORTS AND PARTIES AND I WANT SOMEONE FN!"


Or some start with nonsense philosophy:

"I am a stranger in a strange world, I am full of mysteries and enigmas, are you up to the challenge?"

:facepalm:

I am not kidding, set location to Lebanon and see by yourselves: http://www.pof.com/basicsearch.aspx

And some go offensive mode with high horse attitude.

A real example (and she has no pics):

About Me
If you can't handle a woman who is both strong and idealistic, then save yourself the time and frustration!


Talk about myself? seriously? Why don't u talk about yourself and if im interested ill reply no i'm not snobby i'm more of aaa.... hahah yah tell ya later Sorry that's just not my thing how about later? yeah sounds much better!