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i read alot of these topics and they say im too x, or i don't look like x, or will girls like x.?
Its really quite disheartening to see, alot of you have not been sent back by a girl.. you have been stopped at the first hurdle by yourself.. if you cant like you who else can? i mean would you buy a car that the salesmen told you was awful and not worth having?
this forum could do with more positives and less hangups..
Im sure you all know someone who you deem to be less attractive than you going out with a girl who you deem "out of your league".. well duh, you have already put yourself out of the fight by not trying..
really alot of dating is perception and self belief, these are really hard to come by i must admit, but just try holding a conversation with the other sex.. and see how it goes, they won't hate you or think your untermensch because your a bit rough round the edges...
I know self confidence here is totally shot, but honestly i felt like this for so damn long (coupled with depression - ie motivation zero) but then i realised actually, it wasnt that i was some odd guy or some weirdo.. i was ruling myself out of happiness and never attempting
i mean lets look at the stats, if in a room full of 100 women, you believe you aren;t good enough for any, you rule yourself out of talking to them, because you are (fat,ugly,boring) then you are going home with zero.
The fact is most girls wont find you any of those things you have just convinced yourself they will

I think every guy who calls himself an aspie and carries this negative mentality needs to enroll in the Landmark Forum. Seriously.

I often think its quite natural, because i remember encountering this in my teens when the hormones are fully flowing feeling unable to connect with women, i think it should stop at a certain age but some people might be stuck in this idea...

The sad fact of the matter is that it is much easier to get a woman once one is established, which means having a decent job and some degree of emotional stability. Is it possible to get a woman without having these things? Yes, but it is much harder.

yes, cause women love me so much, they are lining up at my door, because I have such positive attitude. LOL
sure, I do that, make you guys happy.

its that mentality whats holding you back mano

let me asking you this. mr.OP, how many ladies are willing to date a guy, who likes to make random noises.
is semi-special, ( I don't drive, I work part time, get ssi, suffer from learning disabilty, and can go crazy
many times, and throw thing, I am that messed up) what women is going to date a guy like me.
I am not actor either, I can't change myself, so answer that, good man.

none of you know me personaly, if you did, you would understand why I don't date.

bill what is ssi?

I tried goggling it and I got Scuba school international, server sides includes....

Hey good posts DefinitelyKmart.

I hope you stick around keep posting and don't get discouraged (you will need to be strong ).

This forum needs people like you.

Keep up the good work.