What does 'I like a challenge' mean in relation to dating?

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As title. 'Tis very confusing.

I honestly don't know ._.

It's a hard concept to explain, but to me it basically means that is is someone I will never fully grow used to, but who will surprise me and keep me on my toes, making me push myself towards being a better person (big difference between that and her doing the pushing directly) Don't know much more than that to say, it's more of a feeling, a "I know it when I see it" thing

A challenge? Maybe the notion of "wanting what you can't have" being involved and not being realistic about your expectations.

This is the woman saying that she "likes a challenge".

I am already deeply in love with her, and it feels like she is asking me to be something I am not.

Her personality is extremely similar to mine, and I'd be heartbroken if I lost her.

I did ask her recently, and she said that she likes it when men don't agree with her about everything. I disagree with her on lots of things, sometimes pretty strongly.

I still don't get it.

I will push it next time I see her. I'm pretty angry, to be honest. (There have been other things happening in her life that I've gleaned, that I don't want to talk about here.)

It means they want someone better than them who doesn't need them. That's probably what it means

going on the feeling of "being asked to be something you're not." Will it be worth it? For you to figure out.

Now I see a bit more what you mean, and perhaps what she means. I've talked with several female friends and family members about this specific part of relationships, and have done some thinking of my own. If she said she likes a challenge, and she also said she doesn't like men who agree with her with everything, it means among other things she likes guys she can't take for granted. In that case see what's the problem with you; as by your own admission you already spilled your guts about her, she believes at some level she already has you, and that makes her lose interest fast. That's the advantage some abusive types have: it's not because of them being abusive, but because the woman is question is never completely sure they like her; and that's when the "challenge" comes in. I remember I have a good friend who acts similarly; he loves chasing after girls but as soon as he gets a girlfriend he is already getting bored of her because he already "has" her and starts chasing after the next one, in a rather unhealthy circle. He said he'd like to find someone who would be with him, but never fully, I think he should get some things about him sorted out first but I digress.
The part about "I like it when they don't always agree with me" is another big one that further shows my point; I don't know about you but some guys feel they must agree to everything their woman says, which many of them find off-putting (and well, I'd agree; lack of authenticity is not attractive). When someone disagrees it means that someone has their own opinions, that they are another person. Do you always agree with her?
I remember being once in a similar situation and I considered being antagonistic sometimes just for the sake of it, to stop feeling as I was being taken for granted, but in the end it seemed tacky and artificial to me and I ended the relationship.