Feelings towards her spring up.. then she meets someone else

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I recently found out that one of my female friends that I have known for a bit has started dating. Before she started dating this guy, I did not take that much of an interest in her. For some reason, however, I suddenly am thinking about her a fair amount and having fears, an example being that I may never see her again.. Does anyone have any idea what is going on with me? All I can think of right now is that A) I do not like the guy and am afraid for her, or B) I liked her all along but never really asked her out or made a move, and am experiencing jealousy.

Can anyone give me perspective regarding this? It is actually stressing me out a little.

This sounds quite common. Chances are that the feelings you are experiencing are not necessarily romantic, but rather a normal fear of loss. She is your friend and she is important to you. Anyone or anything that swallows up a lot of her attention will naturally take time away from you.

Give her space and do not do anything rash - should it be more than a case of friend-jealousy, you will know in due time. Make sure you stay in touch and do the things you used to do together. If she becomes unavailable during the most passionate in-love phase, the best thing you can do is hang tight and still be there for her when she returns to planet earth.

I'm going to agree with Motley, it is tough and I am kind of going through a similar phase with a couple friends, but don't know if they're dating anyone either. I do know one of them is confused about feelings and where to go with her life, while the other has a child.
The biggest mistake you can make is to take this personally.

It's called wanting what you can't have. It's very common.

Thanks for the advice everybody. After having a couple of days of reflecting on it, I realize that it is more of a friendship issue than a crush/relationship issue. I have a feeling we will remain friends though.