The pink elephant in the room

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is of course the fact that women are just as visual as men and care alot about looks when it comes to choosing a boyfriend, yet the world at large is in complete denial of this. Why does society try to perpetuate the myth that confidence and personality are all that matter to women? Do they think guys like me are blind and dont see how easy all the good looking men have it when comes to dating?all the good looking guys I know have women pursuing them, they dont have to make any effort to get women. They dont have to spend money buying pua e-books or buying new clothes or cologne,nor do they have to send out 1,000s of messages on online dating sites. Women simply make themselves available for these guys.... Why does society deny this? Of course society would say these guys are "CONFIDENT".

Oh, you're a guy? I thought you were a woman ranting.

NM

hmm funny, when i was younger had confidence had girls, got whacked with depression had none of that, depression lifting/lifted girls returning.... i look the same, perhaps balder.. certainly not better.. course the better looking/richer/famous guys have it easier.. but there are people who could be your doppelganger getting girls.

I believe -some- women are intentionally choosing men with certain physiological attributes, but -most- women don't conciously do that. I am not arguing that certain things are not hard-wired into our behaviour, nor that other things has been programmed into us by the culture and society we live in, but I do believe that most people, regardless of gender, would rather be with someone physically unappealing with a good heart, than someone beautiful but mean.

no it just a coincidence that good looking guys have confidence lol

The less superficial you are towards women, the less problems you will face from women acting this way towards you. You are probably going for the hot ones

I can't even count the number of aspie males that have complained to me about their lives and then had the audacity to expect me to go on a date with them. If you think you're ugly/worthless/poor/whatever, why would you expect us to be attracted to you? You have to get your act together and convince yourself that you're worthy of a woman. You don't have to blessed with good looks or money; you just have to have genuine drive and self-motivation to improve yourself. A man that runs marathons is sexy. A man that teaches himself to play an instrument is sexy. A man that commits to goals and achieves them is sexy. A man that sits around and complains about his looks or his poor luck is not. It doesn't take any special sort of luck or inborn talent to take care of yourself. It's something that all men have to learn how to do if they ever want success with a girlfriend.

Say what you will.

However last time I was truly succesful around people, not just women, I was in a state where I believed I was the funniest person ever and everyone needed to know me(going as far as getting a shirt with my own name on the back when I was meeting new people for the first time just to be safe everyone knew my name).
Yes some people hated that very mindset but it was the last time a girl showed real interest in me.

Sadly I cant get that mindset back, I was a naive teenager and I had to open up my eyes to how others saw me eventually.

Been trying to get into a similar mindset without the name on my shirt though, that was tacky