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Hi, I'm hoping anyone can help me. I could type for hours about everything, but I guess what I want to know first is how I would approach someone I am dating who I think has undiagnosed Asperger's....I don't know what to do. I've been on/and off with him for almost 3 years now. I'm trying to hard to understand him, and I can't figure it out. I only thought he may have Asperger's because his son was recently diagnosed. I started doing research and realized many of his characteristics could be brought back to him possibly having Asperger's...Or maybe I'm just looking for an excuse to find out why he doesn't seem to care. I don't know. ANY advice would be helpful. Thanks

Hello, I feel that you should raise the subject when discussing his son. Something along the lines of 'I have read that there is a genetic element to Aspergers.' If he does not want to investigate this further himself then I'm afraid you may need to look at your relationship expectations again. Good luck.

Thank you for responding! It is something I had mentioned in once VERY loosely in a conversation. I just asked him if anyone in his family had any condition similar or Asperger's itself. The only thing he said was that he wasn't aware of anything, although he is convinced his ex (mother of his child) also has some type of anti-social personality disorder. I think I'm just afraid because I am fairly certain if I would bring it up specifically in regards to him, he will receive it very offensively and badly. Guess that's my decision on whether I want to risk that or not. Thanks again for your advice, I really appreciate it.