I can't be the only one in this predicament...

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Ok....where to begin...My boyfriend and I have been together for roughly eight years now (minus a month or two where we broke up) and he's been as patient as to be expected (he's 41, i'm 28), but he's wondering when I'm actually going to move in full-time instead of spending days with him and days with my family, and when we're going to move forward with our life together.

I do actually have image flashes where we are married and we are expecting a kid, but there never seems to be an in-between image. I really really do want to spend my life with him and have children with him (since, it seems, right now, that I will be the only one having kids out of me and my sisters), but it's like I'm stuck. Like something is holding me back, and I know it's only me holding me back. My boyfriend has a stable job (allowing for requirements of call time), stable place to live, and a nice running car. He's got many brownie points with my family both in saving them from downtown with a funky car, helping with computer, and trying everything they want from him to meet their requirements for my love interest. (I hope that made sense.)

In the end, I was wondering if anyone else is in this situation where you do want to move in and go forward, but you yourself are holding you back and how one would get past it. I think it's more "I don't wanna grow up" than anything.

help? ^_^

If you're not ready, then you're not ready.

I mean the only thing you can do in practical terms is make sure you have a few bank accounts that he has no access to, that you have somewhere to go at instant notice if things don't work out, and that you have really good emotional and social support systems apart from him. All of those are going to be necessary, just in case things don't work out.

Apart from that, I would suggest that there is probably a reason that you are hesitating. It might be more serious than you first think, too. I would take the time to go over it thoroughly - actually understand why you have instinctively hit the "stop" button now, of all times.