At what age do male Aspies find a woman they connect with?

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I'm a nineteen year old male having never kissed or had sex with a girl. The reason being is that there has never been a strong emotional connection between me and any girl. I just never felt right. I have female friends that I like but I am unsure how to create romantic interest. It also feels as if no woman could possibly love someone such as myself. I am curious as to what age most people with an ASD end up getting into an intimate relationship having sex. Also I am not talking about hookups/casual sex. An emotional connection.

it took me 5 decades. just about too old to cut the mustard.

Some "normal" people never do, never mind autism.

if it weren't for one special WP person, I woulda been among the lifelong love-deprived masses.

Well, this might not help, but at least you're not alone. I'm going to be 40 in a month, and I still have never had a girlfriend before. I just cannot seem to connect with anyone. My height of 5' 5" doesn't help either, as most women want tall men (there are exceptions). All I can say is that I hope the best for you. Don't openly seek love too much, but don't wait - when the time is right, that connection will happen.

Im also 19 and I'm in the same s**t boat you're in. At first I tried to make excuses for reasons that I should lose my virginity, one being that would be an embarrassment to not have had sex before my teens end. I'll be turning 20 this October, and I likely still be a virgin by that time and for a long time after. The only way that wont be possible is for me to find, flirt with, and fall in love with a girl by that time (I will never sleep with a prostitute), but even though stranger things have happened nothing could be stranger than two young, handsome males like ourselves getting laid. All I can really say is that the distress your feeling is all in your head it's better to find love than lust out of a woman. Now biologically your looking for a mate not a lover, if you just want to mate then maybe one of your female friends might be interested? So just hang in there and keep smiling dude, someday our time will come.

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I am thankful I got a 2nd chance, then, even if I had to wait until I was an old geezer .

I'd had a few occasions to quench my raging hormones in my late 20s, but to mentally connect? Half past 40

Honestly when I was 18 I was too busy getting drunk to care if I was getting laid. Probably the reason I started to begin with because I really could never be more than friends with a girl and I was not happy about it. I basically tried to drink to forget but do not try this because I ended up becoming an alcoholic at 19 and almost died in a car crash.

Here I am 33 years old and still nothing. Maybe this year? Who knows. But I am just starting to try dating yet again after a 3year hiatus and I already got one date in 3 months that went nowhere except the "Friend zone".

I mean maybe this is the trick be friends with a girl for a few years maybe it will turn into something. To even the odds maybe have a number of different female friends. I go out with a female friend almost every week. She is single now. She is too young and does not really like older guys. So trying to pursue it is out of the question. She is not my type anyways. I guess I was just born lose. lol.