Occupational status vs. love status

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This should settle some of the gender debates here once and for all.

Sorry, for various reasons, this applies only to straight people. For example, a passive gay man can get sex--and presumably a relationship-- much easier than a passive straight man (I know this because I get solicited for sex all the time whenever I go to a gay bar without doing anything or putting on any "game" whereas I have to be on my best behavior and put substances into my body to even have a chance with women in a bar). So I have deliberately not made room for LGBT in this poll, so it should be a topic for another poll.

Men who can't get a job may have trouble getting a girlfriend. Is the same true for women who can't get a job finding a boyfriend? If so, why not?

I'm curious if there are any double standards here.

1. Being in school full-time counts as working full-time

2. Having worked full-time in the past but choosing not to currently (for childcare or other reasons) counts as working full-time since this poll is more about abilities than economic status per se.

3. Please be at least 18 years old.

4. You don't have to be autistic.

5. Being married obviously counts as getting a girlfriend/boyfriend.

Male. Work full time. Married.

Female, work part time, married. (Worked full time in the past.)

Honestly, I think most of the guys are confusing vocal/active as a majority. I am interested to see poll results, though.

Male. 31 years old. Work full time. Haven't had a girlfriend in over five years. Met 4 or 5 women from dating sites, never got a second date.

Um you do realize this isn't scientific at all and even your questions are based on typical overly black and white and/or spurious Aspie pseudo logic right? I am an Aspie so I really try to analyze things from more than a if not a then must be b way of looking at things. We Aspies tend to ignore that there could be an infinite set of outcomes and not just the ones are brain interprets or can see or what we assume. Also there are so many published studies on men and women and dating, relationships that one can easily study and research this topic from all angles if that's a specialized area of interest. Of course most of the research is on NTs and in my experience us Aspies are pretty unique. I myself don't have the same view or attitude or way of being or processing in relationships as an NT woman or man and it has caused me misunderstandings and failed relationships and pain, some from not realizing that I was processing and interpreting and meaning things differently than NTs and some because for years I unconsciously tried to conform to societal norms and standards in romantic and sexual relationships.

Work full time, no girlfriend as of this moment. I have dated several people within the last year or so, most of them lasting a month or more.

I once made the sarcastic remark on my Facebook "It seems that jobs and girlfriends/boyfriends have a lot in common. For example, if you don't have one, no one else wants you either."

I worked full time before I had kids. My son is spec. needs(autism) and I'm married about to go back to school full time.

I don't work and never worked full time. Only had two boyfriends ever, they lasted about 3-4 months each. I haven't dated in 20 years and haven't had sex in 18 years. I'm not even interested in doing any of those things.

I'm a 25-year-old female, work part-time, and have a boyfriend.

Female. 18 years old. Work (College) Full time and can't seem to get a boyfriend.

The few times where I've had jobs, I already had a girlfriend before getting the job, so I can't say if having a job improved my odds of getting a girlfriend or not...

Or is that not what we're getting at here?

I am missing the option -not interested in a relationship.

Female > Can't work full time > No interest whatsoever in a relationship