My coffee barista

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TinyDancer
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30 Jun 2013, 12:40 am

I think I'm in love with the barista that fills my coffee every morning. We've never talked before; I can just SEE it in his EYES. Trust me on this. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else quite like him.

Should I try to let him know, or should I just make my coffee at home from now on?

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30 Jun 2013, 12:55 am

ask him to go for lunch sometime. nothing complicated. you'll get your answer if you're direct. be prepared for it to go either way. if you don't confess undying love, even if he says "no", you can enjoy your coffee at the shop.

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30 Jun 2013, 1:05 am

cathylynn wrote:

What if there is a sine up that says "No Dating Your Barista." And I wouldn't want to half lunch with him anyway?

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30 Jun 2013, 1:10 am

TinyDancer wrote:

cathylynn wrote:

What if there is a sine up that says "No Dating Your Barista." And I wouldn't want to half lunch with him anyway?

if he's not allowed to date you, I guess that's where it ends. if he is allowed to date you and if you don't want to have lunch with him, tell him he makes a good cup of coffee and see if he continues the conversation.

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30 Jun 2013, 1:21 am

cathylynn wrote:

TinyDancer wrote:

cathylynn wrote:

What if there is a sine up that says "No Dating Your Barista." And I wouldn't want to half lunch with him anyway?

Should I say it seriously or like its a joke? It would be hard to say seriously since there are better coffee places and I could even make better coffee at home. Its just the way he does it. he makes it look good. its the whole experience.

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30 Jun 2013, 3:34 am

coffee people are friendly to EVERYONE. it gets them good tips.

regardless, it never hurts to just ask someone out or pick up mild flirting.

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30 Jun 2013, 6:17 am

Most baristas I've seen don't even have the time to stop for a second and exchange numbers with someone. Some have a little plate on the counter for tips etc. Maybe you could give him a generous tip and a bit of paper with your name & number on it.

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30 Jun 2013, 9:05 am

I've been a barista and you get hit on a lot, I think everyone does because you're so visible and part of people's day. Before you ask him out or something just talk to him first, ask things like:
-How busy has it been in here this morning?
-How do you get the foam to come out perfect?
- What's the most annoying drink order anyone's ever given you?

Keep it about the job at first.

Work up to it, asking without saying anything else first isn't a good idea because he has no idea if he likes you or not.

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30 Jun 2013, 9:33 am

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30 Jun 2013, 9:49 am

blue_bean wrote:

Someone did this to me once and I was actually very insulted, but that could be just my oddness/Aspergers. He might like it and be flattered, I don't know... *shrug*

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30 Jun 2013, 9:57 am

TinyDancer wrote:

I think I'm in love with the barista that fills my coffee every morning. We've never talked before; I can just SEE it in his EYES. Trust me on this. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else quite like him. Should I try to let him know, or should I just make my coffee at home from now on?

He will never know that you love him unless you tell him. So, you'd better hurry before someone else beats you to it.

What are you waiting for?

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30 Jun 2013, 10:11 am

This is what I said today when he handed me my coffee:
"You should quit your job so we can date. I think we were made for each other baby."
And I said it seriously. then everyone in earshot looked at me. then my barista laughed.
then everyone else laughed.
So I thought it was a success and left the store feeling confident.
What do you guys think I should do next?

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30 Jun 2013, 10:29 am

Gutsy - I love it! :lol:

Just wait and see if he returns your interest or flirts with you the next time you go in - you've just given him a massive green light, see what he does with it.

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30 Jun 2013, 10:33 am

TinyDancer wrote:

This is what I said today when he handed me my coffee: "You should quit your job so we can date. I think we were made for each other baby." And I said it seriously. then everyone in earshot looked at me. then my barista laughed. then everyone else laughed.
So I thought it was a success and left the store feeling confident. What do you guys think I should do next?

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I think you should ask him out again.

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Be careful, though ... he may think that you are stalking him.

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30 Jun 2013, 11:52 am

TinyDancer wrote:

EDIT: You should have written it on a receipt with your phone number and then blushed and left.

What's hard now is it could be awkward since you made a scene, and he still doesn't have your phone number. And if there's actually a sign that says that, it's probably a joke anyway. Even if it weren't, how can they enforce that s**t?

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30 Jun 2013, 12:08 pm

TinyDancer wrote:

I'm curious, after all the advice you were given why did you decide to do that?

What makes you think his job is in the way of dating after work hours?

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