Girls being COMPLETELY creeped out by my appearance

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This happened today when I was heading to work, I was walking listening to my mp3-player and I saw 2 girls my age walking in my direction, I didn't pay attention to them but I heard one go "OOOOHH MMYYYY GOOODDDDD" and they were both staring at me standing still when I passed them minding my own business.

This actually got me thinking, is it usual for a guy who is slim and gets zillions of (probably false) compliments from people about his good looks without asking for it, to be seen as a creepy alien monster by some females?

This is a recent picture of me:



I was wondering if it was because my long neck, narrow shoulders or feminine looks?

Maybe they were saying, "Oh my God how cute he is!" You really don't look creepy at all to me. If I saw you, I'd smile--nothing weird or sexy, and I wouldn't stare--the same way I'd smile at a flower or a pretty sunset. I can't tell how long your neck is or how wide your shoulders are in that photo, btw. You look young for your age, but that's all.

Assuming you maintain good hygiene, there are almost certainly women around who will find you physically attractive.

As far as the girls you describe go, assuming they were being nasty (see Mindsigh's excellent post), just be glad you're not the fellow who will have to be one of their bedmates til death do you part. What I'm getting at is that I actually appreciate people who are unpleasant and unkind up front; I know to avoid them in the future. There is no guessing as to what they are about, and for that I am thankful.

The way I see it, there's three possible things that could have happend:

1. You misinterpretted what they were looking at and may have been looking at something behind you.

2. They were stuck up melodramatic b*****s who were bullying you. I've met plenty of girls (and guys) who would pull that s**t. Putting down others to boost thier own self esteem.

3. They were actually doing the opposite and were blown away by your beauty. You're actually quite a good looking guy. I don't think those compliments are false at all.

I wouldn't worry to much about it, Pretty Boy.......

Here's another pic of me that shows my body complexes more, yeah it's not for nothing that I have issues with the way I look, I have kiddie shoulders, thin as f**k head, long neck faced forward, tiny arm muscles and so on...

So your an average height small guy, not a short one. For you my friend, you have a very good chance at building some muscle. You should get into eating more and going to the gym everyday, then riding your bicycle if you have one, for about 4 miles a day for heart health.
When you are thin it is easier to build muscle than turning bulk fat into muscle. Also, their is a reason for the whole wirey thing, many guys like you are completely muscle.

So you're saying, that's why they were creeped out?

Is this a valid reason to be completely creeped out by a guy?

how did you know they were the same age as you?
how did you notice all of this if you were not paying attention?
minding your own business? was your "own business" the business of analysing how others see you?


"zillions" is not a real number.




no you are a generic looking person who would not raise the eyebrows of the generic people you are in the world of.

you are neither good or bad looking i think. but i am sure my appraisal is not what you seek. you are fishing for females that tell you you are "cute". and you are seeking their sympathy by denigrating yourself with your self appraisal of your mug shot.

and you do not look in any way feminine (to me).
all you have to show of yourself is a picture. say some interesting things and people may look deeper (even without knowing what you look like)

looks fade and then they decompose. is princess dianna still hot?

looks are a very temporary asset that people possess until they lose their looks and then it is all heartbreak and desolation. capture people with words and ideas rather than pecks and fluttering eyelashes.

i am almost asleep, so i may not be saying correct things.

No not at all. I'm just suggesting things that might improve your chances. There are reasons, but not what you were presenting. I have overheard girls talking about me, sometimes you just have to ignore them.

You look like a perfectly normal, likable guy. Nothing creepy in the least! I can all but assure you that IF those two girls were creeped out in any way, it probably had far more to do with something you were doing than anything about your appearance. I had something similar happen once to me before too, I was walking near these 2 girls and they started pointing in my direction and whispering/giggling. Never figured out what on earth their deal was, but it hasn't affected me since lol.

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Well, I've recently bought weights for home use and I have been using them now for like a few weeks every 2 days, but the problem is that I soon will have to get heavier ones as I seem to already find them a bit too light for some exercises (which means that i'm getting slight result, right?).

I do gigantically suck at doing push-ups so I'm doing those more oftenly recently.

Shame that my social anxiety issues and lack of decent transport prevent me from going to a local gym daily, I also hate gyms deeply and I feel like I have a stronger focus towards my exercises when I do them at home, but the problem is: lack of gear.

Despite of this exercise talk, I'm still a strengthless twig, which is why I have these complexes that I have to resolve, well at least I'm motivated so that's a plus. :I

Yeah that could be not far off to be honest.

You don't look creepy or anything to me. I think lots of people are creepy.

And if those girls were being nasty, well f**k them, what the f**k does their opinion matter for anyway?

Honestly I think it might be the hairstyle.

Your face has strong eyebrow/eyes and the very short hair (almost buzzcut) just projects them as the sole focus of attention and that can be intimidating as a first impression.

I may be wrong but it wouldn't hurt to try leaving your hair longer.

You might be an uncut diamond. For an aspie to succeed at dating, being above average in looks is probably essential. Gain some muscle mass, dress in fashionable (but no necessarily expensive) clothes and maintain a good hygiene. Learn to fake confidence as well.