Can't cope full time

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I find that I can't cope with full time relationships. I enjoy the time with girlfriends, but after a day or two, I just need a break and to return to my own little world. If I spend the weekend with a girlfriend, I find work the next week hard because I've not had any alone/down time.

Does anyone else experience this ?

Possibly that's what's going on here too. I did tell my dude "shut your mouth and let me lay here." The other night.
Oops. Work's been bad too.

I urge him to go on "guys night out" often and that helps. Perhaps tell her she should spend some time with her girlfriends out and about. "Go have fun." And if she knows your brain needs that alone time, she will. If she doesn't, you need to tell her.

I can relate. At the moment I am single but trying to date. However if I go on a date or dates or even spend time trying to meet people online or wherever then I don't get any alone time to recharge so yeah then I am tired or on edge at work. It's definitely a double edged sword for me too. Then in relationships for sure. It's so hard for me to get the right balance then I can get into misunderstandings because I can be impulsive and have no filter via text but prefer texting to talking on the phone. I guess I have had mixed success with dating and relationships as an Aspie. I have dated off and on since highschool and was even married for awhile. For some reason now because I am older and also with all the changes in the dating world I find it even harder and more confusing. Wish I could help but maybe it helps to know you aren't the only one?

I can relate, too. I got lucky with my last relationship for a while in that he was going to grad school in a City nearby and we were close enough to see each other over the weekends, but far away enough that I still felt I wasn't being smothered and had time to myself during the rest of the week. When he was about to graduate and suggested we move in together, though, part of me freaked out and I wasn't sure how to handle it.

Yeah, I need lots of down time.
Dating an extrovert would probably kill me.

Sure, I experience this. Not just dating but if I've had too many social events on over the weekend, the next week of work will be tough.

It's fine though, you don't need to be around your partner every spare moment. I'm not sure what you mean by a "full time relationship" but you can be in a normal relationship and spend plenty of time apart. Different patterns work for different couples.