What is it that makes me always just the friend.

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I am quite aware that many do not think the same as I but really.... why is it so hard to understand when someone is just out for a good time or genuinely interested? I am well educated, good looking, very outgoing and always seem to smile. However I am brutally honest and apparently that is frowned upon. I am also a very independant person and not needy. I just dont understand why in every so called relationship I was/am never good enough to take home to mom or anything. I get hit on a lot and asked out a lot, but idk... I just dont get this whole dating and relationship thing and it seems to be easier just to not care but it still bothers me even if I dont let other know. I am a very loyal peron however I do have trust issues as many do I am sure. I am so frustrated with trying to explain myself and trying to understand others actions and meanings. When I question them to understand it only seems to make it worse then better.

Are you male or female?
I'm a male myself and my cousin during our trip to Peru a couple months ago told me that with words "less is more" with women. When I bumped into my grade 6 teacher a few weeks ago, he told me "explaining yourself may get you into trouble. I eventually gave up because I was tired of explaining myself all the time." When caught up in a bit of a problem with someone who was attracted to me recently the words I used when they had problems figuring me out were "I am good to my word, you'll know when I am not being honest." That's all I said to diffuse any potential problem that may occur.

I can't say for sure, since I don't know you...but it could be that you unintentionally come off as not that interested due to the aspie body language or the aforementioned brutal honestly (some would say tactlessness). Girls have said offensive/tactless things to me before and it put me off talking to them, although a few times I later found out they were interested in me.