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What is the best way to make a lady realize that I love her?
Tell her that you love her, simple as that. The world wouldnt end if she doesnt feel the same anyway 62%  62%  [ 8 ]
Talk to her while implying that you love her and make her realize that, without explicitly saying that you love her 15%  15%  [ 2 ]
Ask for help from someone else to tell her that for you 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Write it on a piece of paper and show it to her 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Other 23%  23%  [ 3 ]
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18 Jul 2013, 2:57 am

Many times I have been in a situation where I love someone but I am not sure how to make her realize that. I'd like to hear what do you guys think would be the best way?

Also by best I mean, that the reaction I would get from the woman would be positive, for example.....

"I love you too"

or

"thanks for telling me that"

or something similar



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18 Jul 2013, 4:38 am

I don't think there is a way of telling someone that would automatically give you a positive response - in my opinion.
It would be better to tell someone when you have a good rapport with them - if your friendship with the person is sporadic and strained, then telling them you love them might not bring out a positive reaction :)



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18 Jul 2013, 4:41 am

Cut your ear off like Vincent Van Gogh. :skull:

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18 Jul 2013, 4:48 am

saraip wrote:
I don't think there is a way of telling someone that would automatically give you a positive response - in my opinion.
It would be better to tell someone when you have a good rapport with them - if your friendship with the person is sporadic and strained, then telling them you love them might not bring out a positive reaction :)

The words that come out of the mouth matter a lot though, just one inappropriate word and the woman might not want to talk to me ever again.So the words are a prominent thing that does actually affect the reaction of the woman, regardless of the friendship, which is usually not always present. I mean, one could love a woman without even being her friend yet



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18 Jul 2013, 5:16 am

Do yourself a favour and resist all urges to tell her you love her. All your instincts are wrong and set in opposition to reality. Be indifferent and a lttle cocky...chicks dig that :lol:



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18 Jul 2013, 5:23 am

murbark wrote:
Do yourself a favour and resist all urges to tell her you love her. All your instincts are wrong and set in opposition to reality. Be indifferent and a lttle cocky...chicks dig that :lol:

Last time I tried something like that, she walked away and didnt even answer me so I dont really want to try that again



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18 Jul 2013, 5:23 am

Speedy88 wrote:
The words that come out of the mouth matter a lot though, just one inappropriate word and the woman might not want to talk to me ever again.So the words are a prominent thing that does actually affect the reaction of the woman, regardless of the friendship, which is usually not always present. I mean, one could love a woman without even being her friend yet


Well, if you're going up to people you don't know very well and telling them that you love them, no matter how eloquent and creative you are with words, it's probably not going to go very well. The other person doesn't know you and will feel incredibly uncomfortable. All I'm saying is that you should at least wait until you two are familiar with each other before saying anything. So from a woman's perspective, I disagree - I would accept a very clumsy confession of love with pleasure from someone I know, but if it came from someone I don't know, no matter how eloquent the person is, I would not respond positively because the situation makes me uncomfortable. Context is more important than words.



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18 Jul 2013, 5:26 am

Speedy88 wrote:
murbark wrote:
Do yourself a favour and resist all urges to tell her you love her. All your instincts are wrong and set in opposition to reality. Be indifferent and a lttle cocky...chicks dig that :lol:

Last time I tried something like that, she walked away and didnt even answer me so I dont really want to try that again


I think it helps to start off with "I find you attractive" or "You're very attractive" - that's not quite saying you love someone, but is obviously showing your interest.



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18 Jul 2013, 5:38 am

saraip wrote:
Speedy88 wrote:
murbark wrote:
Do yourself a favour and resist all urges to tell her you love her. All your instincts are wrong and set in opposition to reality. Be indifferent and a lttle cocky...chicks dig that :lol:

Last time I tried something like that, she walked away and didnt even answer me so I dont really want to try that again


I think it helps to start off with "I find you attractive" or "You're very attractive" - that's not quite saying you love someone, but is obviously showing your interest.

How about "You look beautiful", would that make the woman feel happy and react positively?



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18 Jul 2013, 5:44 am

Speedy88 wrote:
How about "You look beautiful", would that make the woman feel happy and react positively?


"You look beautiful" is also good, but it is something that friends could say to each other - saying you find someone attractive is more direct without being sleazy. Well, that's my opinion anyway - I guess others should weigh in too.



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18 Jul 2013, 6:19 am

I like you.



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18 Jul 2013, 7:20 am

You don't need to do it.

She already knows.


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