Dating Websites/Groups To Recommend

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I'm an aspie loner close to 30. I have few friends, but am quite sociable and likeable. Problem was I never had a group so anybody who goes from an acquaintance to a buddy instantly becomes overwhelmed and it dies.

I've come to the conclusion the best thing of benefit would to have a companion, something no guy near 30 (unless gay) can provide.
I wanted to ask what website is best. I am not looking for a quick hit romance, rather companionship is the first priority.
I have never ever been with a girl, so first I just want someone who can help fill my lonely void, then move onto romance. This is not seeking a quick date.

Check out Meetup.com, there are a fair amount of meetups depending on what area of the country you are in.

I also (reluctantly) recommend OKCupid, but remember that your results may vary.

I met my wife on RSVP. I know some websites are better than others, and some people are more honest with their profiles than others.
You just need to interact for a while with whoever you think is suitable; don't meet until you've been messaging, emailing and calling for a while to make sure you have a rapport and feel they are trustworthy before meeting in the flesh.
That's the advantage of online dating; you can check out all the people's profiles, often see what they look like and interact before meeting. So much better than being set up with someone by a friend or other methods, and not as contrived as speed or blind dating.

Ever since Match.com bought OkCupid, OkCupid has been essentially crippled, and they have done everything they could to make it lose appeal.

The journals are gone. Features that used to be free cost money (and rather insane amounts). They hide more attractive users from less attractive users, and through a long history of observation of the de-evolution of this site, I sense their Pay2Win approach introduces all kinds of noise into the matching system.

By the way the matching system is crap anyway, because there are a ton of users who give answer a) and then in the comment condition it so turns out they actually should've given answer b). Because they think the computer reads their essays instead of their binary response.

The site used to be a lot more alive than it is now.

Meetup.com is probably the healthiest way to find someone at this point... there's no pressure of dating or even 1-on-1 restricted contact. You're in a group, and if you catch each other's eye... great.

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