Quick question about first date

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You have set up to meet someone 5 days earlier. And the day comes but you have not gotten the confirmation text yet.

Should I text him to confirm it or shall I just assume it's off and not go? I hate to be the "man" in these situation though.

I know this is stupid...

Last edited by Yuzu on 03 Nov 2013, 10:55 am, edited 1 time in total.

Just send him a message saying "Looking forward to seeing you at _____!". It's probably still on and you should show up; if he canceled it and he didn't tell you, then it just shows that he's a total jerk and you wouldn't want anything to do with him anyways.

I agree with Stargazer.

If you have made definite arrangements with a time and a place then I would just turn up. If not then a quick text saying 'Are we still meeting tonight?' is fine.

Rabbers. No. My husband has taught me that you need to confirm, confirm, confirm over and over again. I keep forgetting, and I keep getting stood up. Not by him, but by everybody else.

I can only go on what I usually do. I've never had someone not turn up when specific arrangements have been made. And anyone who didn't turn up in those circumstances would be the one out of order. If they can't make it it should be them contacting you to rearrange.
Confirming unnecessarily could come across as a little overkeen in my opinion. Unless you have reason to think the person is generally unreliable.

Well, in my case it's a first date so I don't know if this person is reliable or not.

I just hoped he was more socially skilled than me. Guess not.

How unusual lol.

Text/call him for confirmation.

have to do this even with my friends, people sometimes forget what they've arranged. Some guys don't understand this rule though and will not text to confirm so it may be safest bet to text him to confirm it's still on.

While confirming is always a good habit, once you've made an agreement, you should not just decide to call it off without notifying the other party. If you can't reach them to cancel, you should show up anyway. If you get stood up, that sucks and you shouldn't be particularly forgiving about it, but stick to what you agreed to. If the other person doesn't have the integrity to honor their word, that's their problem, but you should always keep yours.

so when is this first date btw?

It already happened. It was meh. I suck at dating/flirting.

You horrified him?

pretty much.

What were you wearing? Halloween is already passed.

Maybe I shouldn't have dressed as Mary Katherine Gallagher then...

Nah, it was my noticeably uncheerful disposition that killed the mood.