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according to site stats:
Total Male Members: 256
Total Female Members: 88

my estimations
Total Male Members: 207--> i estimated that 90% are all singles(i am being generous here ) and 90% are not gays.
Total Female Members: 30 ---> I estimate that abt 40% are not taken (since a lot have registered but taken already ) and 85% are not lesbians.

204-30=174 oh boy

fish are rare in this lake

do nah worry..

when the doctors figure out that the ACTUAL ratio is equal

they will flock..

there's some 'theory camps' who believe the ratio is the result of social factors not identifying women who are aspergers that lead to the ratio of 4:1.

Meaning: that there are more aspi females OUT THERE than in here.

Social factors may mean: general quietness. not prone to outbreaks. expected to be the quiet gender. thus overlooked.

It's something to lobby for. Living with this and not being identifyed is no joke! day after day...after bloddy stinking day....being discounted, overlooked..until you self research, go to the doctor and say what the fuuuuuuuu*k!


I'm certain there are many people who could be experiencing KNOWING what's wrong with them, who won't until they implode.

That is the problem with the ratio in my humble opinion. Boys are detected because they are loud and obnoxious. Girls are just past off as PMS or weird or something of no concequence. In General. Boys act out. Girls act in. If what is 'proper' to society is 'not acting out' than it makes sense that those who 'act in' are not sceduled for diagnosis, because they aren't really causeing any definable problem.

Though, they are still Aspergers on the inside.

This is a biased opinion. It seems natural to me. It is what the asperger knowlegeable caretakers in my life believe as well.

wow. Seabright. Interesting theory.

She's right though.

Here are my two cents:

1) The 1:4 ratio applies to people who have actually been diagnosed. My therapist verified this for me.

2) Many people on WP are only going by the odds of meeting their mate on WP or Aspie Affection. AS-AS hookups have occured before WP/AA ever existed.

There are other online Aspie groups, as well as local support groups. Ironically, I am unable to attend local support groups because I have other obligations.

3) Just because a relationship is AS-AS doesn't guarantee that it's going to work out. I was in a relationship with one from 2002-2006. It didn't work out because she and I had different priorities in life (I am trying to get a career started, and she had family issues).

Tim

At least in my case I do not think that it matters. I really do not see anyone falling in love with me. I have an occational NT girl show interest in dating me but they always seem to be wrong for me. A lot of the time these same woman are already taken and it makes me feel uncomfortable. When it comes to relationships I am really broken inside. My brain doesn't work that way and I think that nobody could love me. Its the truth but its ok. I'll survive.