I'm so sick of this whole aspie women have it easier crap

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It's a struggle for me... Maybe I just need to try harder?

life is hard
but
in the words of john inman
im free

My answer to all the "who has it easier?" threads is always the same:

How the hell should I know?

I have more or less given up on AS-AS relationships, because I am afraid I will end up with someone who is asexual and does nothing but sit at home and play video games.

I am, in no way, saying they're all like this. Far from it. But no guarantee that I wouldn't end up with someone like that.

I read a handful of posts in this thread which mostly compare the woes of being an aspie man versus aspie woman.

I saw the original post differently - sorry if I'm unnecessarily keeping the thread going or repeating someone else's point but this is an interesting topic. Acknowledging that there might be stereotypes for whatever logical or illogical explanation...

Aspie women may have an easier time getting dates (compared to their male counterpart), only to make emotional attachments to another human being who walks away for no understandable reason or abuses them. Doing nothing, of course, for one’s self esteem.

Yet, aspie men may struggle to even get dates feeling isolated, neglected and lost at how to improve or change their circumstance - again doing nothing for self esteem.

Although, dealing with constant intimate rejection is agreeably different to being completely ignored, each is still painful and traumatic.

I saw this post as: instead of judging how things appear from the outside (ie, supposedly its easier for a girl to get a date over a guy), sometimes we need to appreciate what is going on in the inside (ie, were are all hurting, it’s just less visible in some as opposed to others).

I think it is safe to say we all struggle with relationships of all kinds in all stages.

I too am surprised that people are still posting here. Oh well. Add another silly post to this thread. :-)

Marital status
Peoplewhowere single (andhadneverbeen married)were more likely tobe assessedwith
ASD thanpeople of all other marital statuses combined(i.e.thosewhowere either currently
marriedor cohabiting orwho hadbeen marriedin thepast). Thispatternwas evident among men only: 4.5% of single men were assessed with ASD compared with 0.9% of
those married or cohabiting and 1.0%of those widowed,divorced or separated


http://a4.org.au/a4/sites/au.a4/files/A ... OCT_09.pdf

lol men with ASDs are twice as likely to be single and never been married than your average adult.

You say you're "sick of this women have it easier crap", but you might consider it's possible that other people are sick of the fact that they just can't table their issues here without being told it's a load of crap, getting verbally confronted (to put it nicely) and being told "that's just not true, because it means women have it easier if you say that". I think a lot of the fellas here are just being realistic, and when you think about it how better to come to terms with the fact that as a man you do have to be much more assertive, have more social skills and make all the moves on women by discussing it? If the roles changed tomorrow and it was women who had to do all this I doubt any of the fellas here would have a problem with being single, perhaps they'd have problems keeping a partner, but there is a huge qualitive difference between not being able to get a partner at all and just having a problem keeping them around (which seems to be the biggest complaint from the female camp). With all the eye rolling, cries of "that's just not true" and individuals who will just doing anything to stop it being discussed, who has the attitude?