What does it mean? When a woman says...

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I'm stuck and I keep getting this comment from women, all the time. I think it is one of those communication channels that flies right over my head. Reading between the lines, so to speak.

Women keep telling me: You're not ready yet. If I Google for this, then all I get are lines from women that says, "I'm not ready to date you". That frustrates me even more. Because I don't think that applies to me. The women that tell me this are married women, single women etc. The topic would be us talking about another woman. I'm not sure if they are gauging my worth in relation to this woman. Or if they are thinking that this other woman is them.

I wonder if it is suppose to be obvious. When I ask for an explanation, they all go quiet on me.

What are their intentions? These women, know that I can't read between the lines and yet they continue dish out ..... like this.

What are your thoughts on this?

"You're not ready"...

If she has dated in the past, then it means that she thinks that you are too immature to date.

If she has not dated in the past, then it means that she thinks she is too immature to date.

Either way, it means that she isn't going to date you.

"You're not ready to date yet"

I'd like to point out that when you DO know what a woman means when she she says this, you'll be ready to date.

Also: What Fnord said. I don't think there exists a nice way of telling someone they're immature. That's probably what's going on. I don't really think the woman(en) is right here though.

They're probably mistaking 'doesn't get it sometimes' with 'f*** woman's feelings, who cares about 'em.'

*shrug* Pretend you get it and nod sagely. *thumbs-up*

it's a nice way of saying I don't want to date you, please leave me alone.

I'm not even making sense of you guys are telling me, because why would the married woman tell me I'm not ready to date her, when I'm talking about someone else.

E.g. I guess what you are saying is that these married woman says I am not ready (I'm not mature enough) to date the woman we are speaking of.

But I have been hearing this from the age of 10 and it is 24 years later and I'm still not getting it and I guess I can't fake maturity. I suppose I will never be ready then if I have been hearing this for a long time.

Since they're married or taken and you are talking about another woman then it means that they see an unattractive trait in you that makes you too undateable.


Also, stop talking to woman about your women problems - they won't be emotionally supportive to you because you are a man, they will always try to put you down harshly like this because they don't like to see men nagging. (ie. hence why a lot of WP girls here find WP guys very unattractive lol).

If a woman nags to woman about men, the listener woman would be supportive and throw the fault at men "....ie. yeah I know, all men are like this.. ie. most men here are like that..."

but if a man nags to a woman about women she would quickly assume the fault is all you, like those did with you "ie. you're not ready yet" "ie. you should try harder" "ie. you must be doing something wrong" ...etc

So basically, stop talking to them about such issues, you're dis-valuing yourself in their eyes by doing so and possibly ruin chances with date prospects.

"You're not ready" => "You need to become more attractive first"

Obviously.

If you have women issues and they see it, they know full well you can't deal with a relationship or dating. That's my experience with it. Once you say to me "you're not ready" It's time to move on regardless of how they felt about me, and forget about the chasing bs. Since when does chasing ever work for anybody anyway? I often find myself chasing for the wrong reasons, or chasing the wrong person anyway.

If the two people wanted to be around eachother, they naturally find a way to be around eachother. It's the give and take that works. When it comes to being nice, you shouldn't have to ask for people to do nice things for you either. It often causes resentment in the person that is being asked. I know I hate being asked to be nice. Just let me do it because I want to.

Naturally, women have found one thing they didn't like about me and all of it came down to how I express myself.