Aspie Overthinking = Forever Alone

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Question: How do i get a girl?
Answer: 'Some logical reply that makes sense.'
Better answer, from an idiot with a girl: "Tell her she pretty. *grunt* ."

After lolligaggin' around for a while, it seems we're rather pro at picking out areas where self-improvement is possible.

FAQ: So i just ask a girl out? Are you sure?
LeLetch: *smack* You're thinking.
FAQ: Who do i ask out then?
LeLetch: *smack* Thinking again.
FAQ: I got turned down and called a fool about ten times.
LeLetch: *smack* Thinking again.
FAQ: ... Be myself? I think alot you know... So...
LeLetch: Good point. Wait. Now you're making ME think. *smack*

Turning your brain off isn't dumbing yourself down. Relationships are emotional. You're a dumb***. Pretending otherwise is silly. Situations in which you need to feel (if poorly and awkwardly) , you are thinking instead.
And yes, you have feelings. 1/3 of the threads here are about sad feelings, and they're rather well thought out.
Doing what you're better at, normally makes sense. I doubt its true here though.
Feel, poorly, more.
Think, correctly, less.
Success more likely, in getting a girl (or even a boy).
Practice makes perfect, and we're sure as heck not emotionally gifted. Best practice, IMO.

Thoughts/discuss...

what worked for me, along with a lot of unexpected luck, was looking for companionship right here on WP.

You're overthinking, Mr. forever alone.

Feeling over thinking has led to nothing but rejection and embarrassment in the past.

If I don't have a NT sense of feeling and body language, how am I supposed to successfully feel my way around an interaction?

Very true. I find that over-thinking causes more problems in relationships than it solves. The only time thinking is needed is when the current methods are obviously failing. Then you need a little introspection, with plenty of feeling thrown in.

Balance.

I'd love to just turn off my brain whenever I want. It may not help with relationships, but it sure would help with my sleeping problems.

Nuh-uh.

for decades I [more or less] obsessed over why I was unmatchable, so I guess I could be accused of "overthinking" also.

Body launguage is feelings, probably. So... you're supposed to muddle along i guess.

Thats why i specifically mentioned 'getting a girl'. The above stuff is less applicable when in a relationship, i find. Still applicable tho.

Most people are unmatchable, by aspie definitions.

I'm not looking to get a girl. But being in a relationship is how I learned what overthinking does to romance even though it might be less applicable. Everytime I overthink something, it causes problems.

Basically, I agree w/ u, and that is why.

Aspie guys keep overthinking here while they should more working in getting the golden trio that increases attractiveness by 300%: A job, an apartment and a car.

And a good body by going to the gym, that makes it a golden four.

I forget how i solved this. *considers*. I think enough during the day i tend to be burnt out. Maybe its just a youth thing. One day i just stopped having sleep issues. Try music. You have to be severely aspie to listen to music and be able to analyze it and not just enjoy it. Thats what i do nowadays. Music. Beware of fast paced beats/songs, however.
Secondary solution, consider this: Why is the hair on my bum growing so quickly? Hmmm... perhaps i will sleep instead.

I have money, I don't need a job.

Do you s**t money?

Oops....Solvejg is probably monitoring me now.