Does your partner know that you post on WP?/Googling?

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@alwaystomorrow Thanks for your tip! I appreciate it.

I google someone before I go on a date with them to feel somewhat safe. See if they're telling the truth about themselves.

As for myself, I don't put out anything too revealing online but try to keep my online presence a secret from people I know IRL so I can understand if it looks suspicious to them. I don't know why I do that.

I only google people if I'm meeting them from online. I feel safer about it if I can verify that they actually are who they say they are, meeting someone for the first time like that is stressful enough without worrying about them being a total crackpot! Luckily thus far I've only met one person who was the least bit deceptive about themselves, and even in that case I don't think it was entirely intentional on her part.

People I'm already close with know my opinions, history, and lifestyle, so I wouldn't expect much of what I've posted on WP to be a surprise.
That includes my BF-and, FYI, I didn't meet my partner on WP, but at a different forum online.

Would I google someone before a first date ?
No, I can't be bothered, plus the internet contains as much misinformation as it does valid data.
It would just muddy the waters, overwhelm me, to have that much noisy static to weed through
in hopes of divining clues about someone-when I'll figure out more from merely meeting with the guy in person anyway.

For the most part, if I'm meeting a stranger from online, it's in a public place
& I tell someone I'm going out, so they'll check I made it back safe.

So you won't mind them reading your posts? Do they know you post here?

I don't think I've posted anything that would be too surprising to people close to me but I still don't want them to know I'm on here or read my posts.

I never goggle someone before a first date.

I do however google someone if I have had a first date but only if afterwards had a funny feeling about them - during such times I often uncover a girlfriend, fiancé or wife on those occasions.

I wouldn't exactly tell them about WP if I were dating someone or on the occasions that I have. If they found it on their on, then so be it.

I don't see much of a difference between meeting someone on WP or off WP. If I meet someone on WP, they clearly know who I am and what I'm like from my posts. If I met someone offline, they read my posts and took issue with things I said or did or what not - then clearly they don't know me as well as is necessary. If they don't like me on here, they won't like me IRL either.

I've noticed when someone is a serious prospect, I don't even mention them on WP, or on the very rare occasion I do, it's merely in passing.
I've learned that if I feel the need to post about problems or b*tch or vent about them on here, that I probably shouldn't be with them.
For that reason, although WP is my sanctuary too, if I am serious about someone they are also usually my sanctuary - so there shouldn't be anything in my posts that would cause issues by them reading them.

How would you know that google isn't the one with the lie? While I've googled myself (there's only two people in Canada with my name) and there is nothing significant there I wouldn't be shocked if someone wrote something libelous about me somewhere in cyberspace. I've already been accused (verbally) of being a pedophile and a serial killer even though I haven't hurt anything bigger than a fly. A number of women suddenly broke off contact without any warning and I sometimes wonder if they didn't find something online that I didn't, something blatantly untrue. I've told my GF about Aspergers and that I've visited WP but I doubt she's ever been here and I never told her I post here.

I wouldn't mind others reading these posts,
but I also know the people in my life are mostly way too busy with a million other things
to even be reading my online posting anyway-so I don't need to worry much about that possibility, as it's so unlikely.
The stuff I say is really not that interesting-who's going to care ?

I make dumb heart wrenching posts all the time. My parents must think ima idiot if they knew what I was posting


they probably do

how can you even google someone just by knowing their name? For instance if you typed in bob billybob you probably woudn't find anything

I even made up a new nickname so i couldn't be recognized. :/

I wish I knew if ANY of my friends knew I posted here. I can see where it could have pivotal effects for me, but all too many threads lack descriptiveness and it gets hard to tell which parts of them relate to me. Too many NTs here leave the specifics out of their questions, seeking to avoid offending anyone, which just ends up confusing who they might be asking about.

Last edited by cberg on 04 Oct 2013, 9:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Not yet. But you never know.

yeah I do, if I get bored and want to know more about the person.