Sgt. Giftorcurse's Lonely Heart Rant Thread

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02 Oct 2013, 2:37 pm

I'm currently in my third semester of college, and I must say that it is going well. I still struggle with depression, writing, and losing weight, but I guess we all have problems we need to work on. There are times where I feel like I really need a girlfriend. You all know my gloomy feelings about the opposite gender, but I have no intention of going crazy on this thread. Being a misogynistic, whiney, lazy emo won't cut it, either on WP or in the real world. I've been going over my posts in the Love and Dating subforum, and I'm at the point where I realize just how asinine and melodramatic some of them are. As a writer, I found them beneath my standards. I think that much of my attitude towards women can be traced, believe it or not, to my own personality faults. In high school, I garnered a reputation as a weirdo, a drama king, you name it. That is part of the reason I'm glad that I don't go there anymore. It was a zoo populated by everything I hate about my generation, a sideshow. One of my friends has strongly insisted that I get a girlfriend, but I think I need to work on my issues first. Below, I have included a link to my Facebook profile and the username of my Skype account if any one is interested in a chat.

https://www.facebook.com/connor.bible.967
Contact me on Skype, my username is connorthescribe.

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02 Oct 2013, 3:40 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:

Good for you! The first step is realizing your issue.

There are a ton of guys on this forum that don't yet realize that being a misogynistic, whiney, lazy emo won't get them anywhere and some are over twice your age already so you're doing quite good there.

My advice to you is to leave all that highschool BS behind and focus on finding your social niche (should be far easier in college.) Build a nice social circle (join some clubs or something) and work on having a positive self image. Unless you can build some self-esteem (don't rely on a girlfriend to do it for you as that's a recipe for disaster) then you will set yourself up for failure.

For instance, you mentioned struggling with losing weight. You should be doing that for you first and foremost not anyone else. There are a ton of ignorant guys on her who say that going to the gym more and becoming fit will help and yet they still struggle and have a resentful attitude about it. That's because despite everything they have poor self image and require the validation of others to feel any self worth. That's a fools game and the longer they play it the lonelier they will get.

You really should focus on you. The girlfriend thing will fall into place eventually. :wink:

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02 Oct 2013, 11:06 pm

Meh. Nothing wrong with getting a girl. I find self-improvement leads to self-improvement. Sometimes i think its as simple as not hating everything, or at least, not dwelling on what you hate. Then just doing stuff. Being happy is sortof the goal here. Girls won't do it. Seeking a girl to be happy, is not always best. Being happy is what happens when you want to be happy. If you LIKE thinking about negative things, like your personal faults, general faults found in women, well, that won't make you happy, in pretty sure.

You already figured out most of it, probably. Putting forward effort, and listenning to criticism, when you do them, will put you ahead of 90% of the pack in terms of self-improvement. *shrug*

Re-arranging your mind while in a brooding state... Letch is suspicious of this. I did it for a long time. Now Letch is a jack***. I used to be a sweety-pie ya know
So, yeah, just eat ice-cream and hit on girls. Its not rocketscience figuring out when you're being a jack*** and just stopping. *shrug*
Everything else is mostly just a quest to be NT. I tell people im quirky on purpose, lolz. Then they assume im more normal than i really am.

Huzzah! Letch shortcut ftw.

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