Need help with trying to pick a girl up intelligently

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If you have social intelligence and good at dealing with neuro-typicals I want YOU

Theres a girl that works at the pharmacy I get my drugs from. She's smoking hot (my 9 out of 10) I'm not sure if she likes me. I think I sensed her checking me out and another time her fixing her hair.

I'm not concerned about being rejected. I just don't want to look like a fool and be socially castrated from the pharmacy. I had a bad experience where I asked a pretty girl for a hug and a dude stepped me up on that.

I thought I would walk past her and get eye contact to see if she's interested then ask her out for coffee/get her facebook if she looks interested. I just don't want a sh1t storm in my pharmacy. Thanks

Rules for picking up chicks:

1. Never at work.

2. Never any hotter than your own reflection.

3. Never without a trusted wing-man.

4. Never with less than $200 cash in your pocket.

Let us know how it goes.

In my experience, the idea is to contrive a very obvious request.

Example: "I simply can't go out for coffee unless im with a beautiful woman, its this hangup i have."

Sadly, most of your success is dependant upon displaying confidence. Also, take a shot at finding a rare positive quality of hers that is not physical. Being dressed and groomed is a positive. And no, dont gel your hair. Lolz.
If she thinks that rejecting you will hurt you, and women are sensitive to this... you will not do well.
Here's a line: "You always make me happy when i see you." *point at the drugs she has given you* "And, unrelated, you put a smile on my face."

Please note, if she's giving you drugs that prevent you from going insane, your odds are likely terrible. It helps tho if you very tactifully tell her you have a job, and move on from the subject quickly, lest you appear to be bragging.

Stuff like that. Letch isnt the best however.

She worth the terrible odds, but yes



Bull, confidence social skills



She's just a girl lol



I don't want to catch something

I'm going to reword this to fit my personality. You sir, are the man



Thankyou, I got to enjoy myself even though I badly want love im just going to have to wait. "you can't hurry love you just have to wait la la la"

This will NOT end well.

May very well be the wrong environment to look for a date in.

yah man you should talk to her, besides the worse thing she can say is no or not be interested. You're not getting any younger.


actually the worse thing she can say is no, make fun of you, call you a crepper, then have her bigger stronger boyfriend beat you up

The one time I successfully asked a clerk out, it was last year at Spencers while buying a spiderman shirt and she started quoting the "Amazing Spiderman" trailer and talked about other nerdy things. After working up some courage, I asked her if she wanted to go see spiderman with me and she said yes.

Have there been any extended interactions with this girl besides the normal "how's the weather-esque" small talk? Do you know if you have anything at all in common? Otherwise it just seems like you're asking her for no other reason than you think she's pretty.........

Last edited by Geekonychus on 30 Sep 2013, 10:14 am, edited 1 time in total.

at least you can walk up and talk to chicks

i cant talk to girls at all, I was perm muted by Jagex

I'd start buying a whole lotta over the counter medication so you can talk to her and get to know her over a period of a few months. You could even ask her for her pharmacological advice. Which cold medicine is the best etc. I'd also say to talk to her, but try not to show that you're super interested. It's never worked for me to be too over zealous, and I'm thinking that by being putting out an ambiguous vibe might be more interesting for her....I haven't had enough coffee to totally get into the details of why I think this works but......

Good luck though.....

There's a lot of unfounded negativity in this thread. My advice is to stay positive.

Also, the best way to approach people (men and women) is to get them out of autopilot. Until then, you will just be another person and he/she will treat you out of autopilot. There will be little chance of a connection.

Women at work have a lot of autopilot responses. Break them out of that and they'll snap out of their "trance" and be immediately intrigued by you. But you also need to be socially intelligent.

Let her notice you first. You can do that with exceptional body language and a good sense of style. Or you can touch her first or be doing something interesting (in a good way) to catch her attention. THEN you look at her (best to have her looking at you first). Then what you say to her should be something that snaps her out of autopilot. If you do this smoothly, she'll often immediately be hooked into you. If she's not hooked yet, flirt/tease/banter with her. If she isn't hooked into you by 5 minutes (it usually takes much less time), you probably did something wrong, and it's probably best to gracefully leave.

Once she's hooked, and because you're socially intelligent, you know she's can't talk to you long or she'll get in trouble with her boss/coworkers. Get to know her quickly, then suggest meeting you after work. Best to suggest meeting before getting the number because it also prevents her from going into autopilot (most guys go for the number first...if you've noticed the trend now, you want to be different but in a socially intelligent way). Keep the suggestion light and casual...but you want to ask her in a confident way as if it's natural she'll agree but you are just soliciting her buy-in (this is her investing in you). Once she agrees, exchanging numbers is natural. Make sure she saves your name on her phone.

After an hour or two, text her that you're glad to have met her. Mention her name because that cements the connection. Also keep it light and casual or you'll scare her. Save the heavy stuff for when you two are together in person. If she couldn't meet up with you on that same day (after she got out of work), in a few days, ask her for her schedule for the rest of the week so you two can meet up.

Watch the popular from a distance before I go up to them. Then see what there character is like



It sounds good but I don't have those social skills. I thought maybe I'd try and get eye contact with her and if she spells out to me she is attractive Id ask if she has facebook and meaning to add her. Maybe this is a crappy strategy

Hitting on women while they are at work isn't a good idea in general.

As another poster said above, they are in autopilot and you don't really know if they are interested or just being nice to you because your a customer of the place they work.

Not only are they on autopilot, but it might come across as disrespectful to the woman your trying to initiate contact with.

This can be tough, I personally wouldn't be making any bold moves until you know that she is interested in you. The best way to find out if she is interested in you is by talking to her a few times and asking her a couple of questions about herself...

The first visit you may ask " hey, how are you doing?" And if her face lights up than that's a good sign. She might mention something like "work is so slow on Tuesdays" or "I'm doing good, today I have to take inventory so I'm slammed"

Take knowledge of how she responds and build on the information she gives you. If you aren't good at telling whether or not someone is interested in you than I can see you having a problem but the more interaction you have the more you can tell if she's interested.. Don't wait too long though if she is interested (smiling, looking you in the eyes with a bright smile, being willing to talk with you)

thanks lost I think I can do that