My boyfriend is angry because I made an account on here

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So my boyfriend is angry at me because I made an account on here and didn't tell him about it.
He thinks I was being secretive and hiding it from him.

(He has Asperger's too)
What can I do to make him get over it?
I feel like this is ridiculous.

Encourage him to make one too?

gawd it's not like this was plentyoffish or something. Dude needs to take a chill pill.

Maybe he thinks you're gonna cheat on him with the fellow L&Ders? (perhaps he should take a look at the majority of L&D posts and users before thinking that)

Tell him that he should stop complaining so much about trivial s**t before he joins the hordes of Aspie guys that DON'T have girlfriends right here on these forums.

EDIT: Okay Dani, I've had to edit this post after reviewing the situation a bit more. It seems his paranoia and anger about this account of yours aren't without merit.

Lets review what you've done with your account in just 2 weeks:
-Share pictures of yourself in Hot Aspie pic rooms and general threads. Some of these are a bit suggestive.
-In some places you are fishing for compliments.
-You talk about people liking you and how you are confused about some things (I won't go into detail as it's rather personal).
-You have barely, if at all, posted in any boards to do with normal hobbies or interests.
-Where you have been posting, are in areas to do with love, dating, relationships, adult boards etc.
-You've kept this account secret in a 2 year relationship....did you have a fight recently or something? Are you getting bored of him?

All the above sounds like a huge cry for attention that you feel you aren't getting from your guy, and it's very likely given his presumed age and social development he's going to not only see it the same way but additionally think you're on the hunt for another Aspie guy and are trying to advertise yourself around the forum for attention (even though you do mention your bf a couple of times).

You have the right to your own privacy and yes, you do have the right to talk about these topics...but I think you're going about it in entirely the wrong way. In an Aspie relationship where trust is extremely vital and everything seems more black and white than it really is... you must avoid the immature temptation of fishing for compliments, talking to other men/women for no distinct purpose in romance/adult message boards, and perhaps give him a reason to feel you are not "going behind his back" so to speak.

I'm not telling you where or when to post of course, but to consider what you post and why as well as why you need to keep it a secret when you are in a relationship. Kinme is a shining example of how to do it right - She's a happily taken individual and she is open about her account here at WP with her bf/fiancee. Yes she posts in L&D and other rooms but it is with people she has already built a connection with and it isn't to talk about things that could act as a "threat" to a relationship. Take notes and give your bf a reason to feel safe about your account. Maybe consider checking out the other boards and contributing, or if you feel there are things about your Asperger's you and your bf can't figure out then maybe check out the Haven, Social Skills & Making friends, Members only boards

^ if you want a gf you can promise him for threesomes. :>

Well, myself and apparently many others think there's absolutely nothing wrong with how you look. You look great and he's a lucky guy.
Yeah, those topics are kind of fun. Why else would I also be here I think balance is probably what I was suggesting. If I wasn't aware of the whole situation and I found your account as a bf I'd probably be worrying too.

Just reassure him, mix up your conversations a bit and perhaps tone down the image sharing and such a bit.
Sorry if I sound like your dad in the post I just edited above your post. If anything I was just trying to help you see it from a different perspective.
As we are all Aspies I'm sure what it looks like wasn't your intention at all and you probably weren't aware your posting activity would come across that way

He sounds very insecure in his relationship with you. I'm sorry. How old are you? If you're both adults then you should run as fast as you can. If you're just a teen, then I'd say this is just teen behavior and you should still consider running. Good luck.