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25 Oct 2013, 3:02 pm

It's probably very common, but it's very severe in my case. Nobody would ever be attracted to me back, and girls find it insulting when someone they don't like is attracted to them, or at least that's what I keep hearing. They make entire blogs about calling people they don't like who like them creepy. They wouldn't even be wrong in my case. Even when I'm not being crazy, I look creepy. I shouldn't like anyone. It makes me feel guilty and angry at myself.

But I can't get rid of it, I can't make it shut up. I even had thoughts about a good friend of mine. She's told me she doesn't like me that way, she did when she first met, which I welcomed. At least she's straightforward and doesn't cover it up with nice words that don't mean anything different. She deserves far better than me, even if she was interested. Almost everyone deserves someone better than me. Even people I don't know, it wants me to look at girls I find attractive when I'm outside but I know they don't want me to, and I feel guilty anytime I have to talk to a cute girl at a shop or something because I know they don't want me within a mile of them, but I can't kill it. It won't shut up, it won't leave me alone, it won't lead anywhere good and it's in my head so I can't kill it and it's driving me crazy.



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25 Oct 2013, 3:31 pm

Part of growing up. Eventually you get over it and lower you standards after seeing reality or get fed up with being unattractive and put a ton of effort into fixing it.

For a guy I would suggest getting a tough manual labor job while doing some stuff each week at the gym and starting to eat healthier. You would be shocked at how fast it can change. Not saying be a bulky weight lifter but use it to develop lean muscle and shed weight.


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25 Oct 2013, 3:40 pm

^idk some people really are just creepy. there is this guy at work, even after more than a year I still do a double take Every Time I see him, because at first glance he looks kinda interesting, and then you look again and he is just creepy..hard to explain..and very sad :(



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25 Oct 2013, 3:46 pm

Wafflemarine wrote:
Part of growing up. Eventually you get over it and lower you standards after seeing reality or get fed up with being unattractive and put a ton of effort into fixing it.

For a guy I would suggest getting a tough manual labor job while doing some stuff each week at the gym and starting to eat healthier. You would be shocked at how fast it can change. Not saying be a bulky weight lifter but use it to develop lean muscle and shed weight.
People say that to me all the time. Honestly, for my own good I did start a small excercise program that I could do at home. No way in hell I'm going to the gym for fit people to laugh at me, and not be allowed or even able to hurt them. I plan to restart that once my toe is fully healed up. But it doesn't make a damn bit of difference outside of my health. I was born wrong. I don't look right, I never did, and no matter what I do, I never will. So nobody can ever be attracted to me. I have to kill it, I have to stop it. It doesn't just hurt me, but I know everyone's disgusted that I would dare have thoughts for those out of my league.



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25 Oct 2013, 4:06 pm

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^idk some people really are just creepy. there is this guy at work, even after more than a year I still do a double take Every Time I see him, because at first glance he looks kinda interesting, and then you look again and he is just creepy..hard to explain..and very sad :(



^ Remarks like this are not helpful.^ :ncool:



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25 Oct 2013, 4:08 pm

leafplant wrote:
^idk some people really are just creepy. there is this guy at work, even after more than a year I still do a double take Every Time I see him, because at first glance he looks kinda interesting, and then you look again and he is just creepy..hard to explain..and very sad :(

I'm sure not every female your age thinks about him the way you do.



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25 Oct 2013, 4:11 pm

meh



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25 Oct 2013, 4:17 pm

Lostathome wrote:
It's probably very common, but it's very severe in my case. Nobody would ever be attracted to me back, and girls find it insulting when someone they don't like is attracted to them, or at least that's what I keep hearing. They make entire blogs about calling people they don't like who like them creepy. They wouldn't even be wrong in my case. Even when I'm not being crazy, I look creepy. I shouldn't like anyone. It makes me feel guilty and angry at myself.

But I can't get rid of it, I can't make it shut up. I even had thoughts about a good friend of mine. She's told me she doesn't like me that way, she did when she first met, which I welcomed. At least she's straightforward and doesn't cover it up with nice words that don't mean anything different. She deserves far better than me, even if she was interested. Almost everyone deserves someone better than me. Even people I don't know, it wants me to look at girls I find attractive when I'm outside but I know they don't want me to, and I feel guilty anytime I have to talk to a cute girl at a shop or something because I know they don't want me within a mile of them, but I can't kill it. It won't shut up, it won't leave me alone, it won't lead anywhere good and it's in my head so I can't kill it and it's driving me crazy.


You should post a picture here and let some people critique it for you.



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25 Oct 2013, 4:20 pm

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Lostathome wrote:
It's probably very common, but it's very severe in my case. Nobody would ever be attracted to me back, and girls find it insulting when someone they don't like is attracted to them, or at least that's what I keep hearing. They make entire blogs about calling people they don't like who like them creepy. They wouldn't even be wrong in my case. Even when I'm not being crazy, I look creepy. I shouldn't like anyone. It makes me feel guilty and angry at myself.

But I can't get rid of it, I can't make it shut up. I even had thoughts about a good friend of mine. She's told me she doesn't like me that way, she did when she first met, which I welcomed. At least she's straightforward and doesn't cover it up with nice words that don't mean anything different. She deserves far better than me, even if she was interested. Almost everyone deserves someone better than me. Even people I don't know, it wants me to look at girls I find attractive when I'm outside but I know they don't want me to, and I feel guilty anytime I have to talk to a cute girl at a shop or something because I know they don't want me within a mile of them, but I can't kill it. It won't shut up, it won't leave me alone, it won't lead anywhere good and it's in my head so I can't kill it and it's driving me crazy.


You should post a picture here and let some people critique it for you.
What would be the point? I know what they'll say.



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25 Oct 2013, 4:23 pm

Lostathome wrote:
What would be the point? I know what they'll say.


I think I personally could give you some positive insight. I don't always agree with other peoples advice but they might have some thing to add too.



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25 Oct 2013, 4:47 pm

Aren't there any creepy girls out there that creepy guys can hook up with?



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25 Oct 2013, 4:50 pm

Yeah, there are. They're just in denial and too busy projecting themselves onto nearly every man that they meet.



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25 Oct 2013, 5:33 pm

Willard wrote:
leafplant wrote:
^idk some people really are just creepy. there is this guy at work, even after more than a year I still do a double take Every Time I see him, because at first glance he looks kinda interesting, and then you look again and he is just creepy..hard to explain..and very sad :(



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leafplant hasn't realise yet that wrongplanet exists because of creeps :P



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25 Oct 2013, 5:37 pm

leafplant is on WP because of no real friends. what does that tell you?

Anyhow, can creepiness be fixed?



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25 Oct 2013, 5:46 pm

VIDEODROME wrote:
Aren't there any creepy girls out there that creepy guys can hook up with?
Nobody who doesn't deserve better than me.



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25 Oct 2013, 6:20 pm

leafplant wrote:
leafplant is on WP because of no real friends. what does that tell you?

Anyhow, can creepiness be fixed?

Yes.


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