Is it wise to ask old friends out?

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I heard that one of my old school friends has dumped her boyfriend sometime in the past year. We go way back but I don't see her much now days. However, she'll be at my birthday party tonight.

I don't want to just blurt it out to her. That would be far to awkward especially if she sees me in a nonromantic way. I want to know if there's something subtle I can do about it. Bare in mind she's an aspie but they say it doesn't affect girls as much and aside from being prone to obsession she's very well adjusted.

Anyway, if there's no way to do this cautiously I'd sooner do nothing at all because I value our long time friendship and I don't want to do anything that could cause awkwardness in it.

read the signals, is she platonic towards you or is she expressing flirtatious interest? look for signs to see if she actually likes you because you might mess up a good friendship or make things awkward between you and her.

Yeah I did that. She was platonic as always. Anyway it was a false alarm. It turned out her sister had dumper her boyfriend instead. Strangely enough. When she said she was sorry her boyfriend couldn't make it, she places a slight emphasis on boyfriend and mentioned him by name even though I already know his name. And it was his full name, not the contracted version she usually uses. And she was addressing me, not any of the other single men who were there.

It's almost as though she knew something was up. She is an aspie so there's a chance she went on this site and read my post. She could probably work out who I am since my age ticker ticked over to 26 today and my location is set as Adelaide and not an imaginary place. Oh Gods! Imagine if she read some of my other weird posts. Then again maybe the phentermine pills I'm on are making me even more paranoid than usual.

Anyway I didn't say anything awkward and she doesn't seem to bear a grudge against me so it looks like disaster was averted.