Girlfriend tells me she's glad I'm not a "playboy"

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13 Oct 2013, 1:16 am

So my girlfriend just sent me a text explaining to me how she's so happy that I respect her culture by not trying to rush things physically in the relationship. She was nervous about dating a Westerner like me because she was afraid she'd have to get intimate before she was ready. She says that I'm "gentle for her" and this is makes her "happy to stay with her".

That I'm a "goodboy" instead of a "playboy" despite the fact that I'm "handsome" apparently makes me stand out. Her and her Laotian friends were joking about how I'm going to make a "great husband". They did so in a suitably humorous fashion (it would have raised a red flag otherwise) but the clear implication is "So far you seem like a keeper".

This is just the kind of thing I need to scrub all that cynicism outta my system.

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13 Oct 2013, 1:46 am

good luck to your both :thumleft:

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13 Oct 2013, 2:40 am

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

Like girls here.

Typical Eastern, typically oriental.

Enjoy and try to not freak out, Mr. Groom. Stay cool!

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13 Oct 2013, 3:53 am

Start saving up for that diamond, you'll need every cent you can get :wink:

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13 Oct 2013, 4:11 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

Like girls here.

Typical Eastern, typically oriental.

Enjoy and try to not freak out, Mr. Groom. Stay cool!

You're just mad jelly you don't get a qt3.15 azn waifu.

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13 Oct 2013, 5:11 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

What's the betting he'll be on here in four years' time, after he's been married to her for several years and he says they still don't have sex.

This sort of thing rarely gets better and I am concerned you're setting yourself up for a very sexless, frustrating marriage OP.

Still, if you love her, it ain't my business.

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13 Oct 2013, 5:24 am

Pfft, sex. It's the cuddles afterwards you want.

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13 Oct 2013, 7:21 am

Tequila wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

She's not a virgin, you know. It's not that she's a puritan.

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13 Oct 2013, 7:26 am

Good luck ... you'll need it when she starts moving her immigrant relatives into your home ...

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13 Oct 2013, 7:41 am

Fnord wrote:

Good luck ... you'll need it when she starts moving her immigrant relatives into your home ...

You speaking from experience there? We'll be able to swap stories about our azn waifus!

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13 Oct 2013, 7:46 am

Yes, the cynicism will be a good thing to put to bed. Mainly because it's the thing that could lead you to making wrong presumptions about her that could potentially self sabotage the relationship.

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13 Oct 2013, 7:48 am

Don't panic!

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13 Oct 2013, 7:52 am

Tequila wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

Laos is a communist country from buddith background - I don't think they are generally that reserved.

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13 Oct 2013, 8:01 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Tequila wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

Laos is a communist country from buddith background - I don't think they are generally that reserved.

http://www.journeyswithintravelblog.com ... ting-laos/

Check rule number 3.

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3. Public displays of affection are not practiced by Lao, even holding hands with your loved one (you will see friends of the same sex). Being affectionate in public makes most Lao uncomfortable so, best to do in private.

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13 Oct 2013, 8:24 am

Shau wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Tequila wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lol Already talking ("joking") about marriage with her friends.

Laos is a communist country from buddith background - I don't think they are generally that reserved.

http://www.journeyswithintravelblog.com ... ting-laos/

Check rule number 3.

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PDA and sexual abstinence are two different things.